Not sure if this the right forum, but hey ho maybe someone has some insight.
I have a female friend that has become both distant and clingy at the same time. DIstant in that she never, ever invites me to do anything anymore, but clingy because when we do meet she complains she does not see me enough. Until end of last year we spent all our spare time together, and even dated for a few months. Then she met someone and thats when the distance started. I've also met someone and am incredibly happy, but am sad I seem to have lost my close friendship too.
Recently I have been busy and did not contact my friend for around a month, and eventually she contacted me - but again not to invite me to do anything. Just general chat texts about how I was liking a book i have read. Eventually I asked her to meet up, because its been ages and she jumped at the chance. I don't get why she didn't just invite me in the first place though since thats clearly what she wanted?! And now radio silence again for weeks on end with no responses to my texts (two in two weeks, not loads!). I will see her this week presumably, which is the day we arranged. I don't really understand what is going on? We used to text back and forth all the time, and do lots of things together. I can't really see what has changed on her side, because I think she always was happier as just friends with me.
Some friends insist its because she has feelings for me, but when we dated it was her that called it off and its her that then soon met someone else, and it really seemed like she just wanted to be friends. I can't help think she is playing head games with me perhaps, which I am not happy about if so because I now just want to be friends, having met someone else that to be honest I am much happier with in a romantic way than we were when dating. I would just like the friendship to get back on track.