Am I being crazy and controlling ?

[Dustbunny1900]

I'm not sure if I'm in the wrong so lay it on me.
DH has been listening to a youtoube "news"account that's very extreme right wing and misogynistic (in my opinion). It's all ridiculous conspiracy theories, and just general stupidity but it's the sexist anti choice shit that I especially hate.
Whenever I ask "why do you listen to that horse shit? " he says "I can watch what I want I'm an adult. I don't tell you what to do". And he's right, so I grumble but ultimately fuck off and drop it.
I just don't need him turning into one of those pigs and it worries me a lot. I feel like it's starting to brainwash him. But I'm his wife not mother.

I would absolutely hate that. Unfortunately he's an adult and other than telling him that he's watching vile rubbish, there's not much you can do.

I would be about that too. I'm not sure what you can do about it though. Could you try discussing his views on some of the issues that particularly concern you such as the misogynistic stuff and put across why you don't agree? (disclaimer: it may have no effect/ end in a big row /divorce...)

What do you mean by extreme right wing, I know that might seem an odd question but some peoples idea of extreme right is different to another's. I watch a fair few right wing commentators videos and read their columns etc, not the nazi type stuff though but I am pretty much a very left wing person. The questions you need to ask are has this noticeably changed the way you think he acts and has his view become very right wing. Not Tory sort of right more BNP type hateful poison though, has his view point changed where you feel it has a negative effect on your relationship? I know one of the things that would cause me to leave my partner would be them becoming an extremist in views, I could not handle the hate that comes from it.

It's Alex jones/infowars , I think he's very extreme and can't stand his views but I suppose there will always be someone even more extreme. DH will say stuff like "oh I just ignore the sexist stuff" but I don't think he realizes how much of it is misogynistic..like downplaying rape in western English speaking countries for instance and saying it just doesn't happen basically or saying women like being controlled and told what to do (ugh). Oh yes "all feminism=evil" all sorts of garbage. I just cannot . Sorry, now I've gone off on a tangent.
I think tonight I will express my concern as opposed to expressing my anger

Oh, you've moved in with my ex. He got like that, joined UKIP, can't say feminist without changing it to feminazi, tells me Hitler was a socialist (implying left wing are Nazis). Same about rape, according to him there are more false claims than actual rapes, more domestic violence against men than women, it's all a conspiracy against men....blah blah.

I just lost my patience with it all.
One of several reasons I dumped him.

Some people like to look at that sort of crap purely to laugh at it. I would suggest judging your DP by how he behaves towards you and others rather than what he watches.

Right wing commentary is pretty entertaining, hence why characters like Limbaugh, Jones, and Savage have huge audiences.

You may hate it, sure. It's still entertaining.

Take others advice and judge your husband by how he acts, not by what entertainment he enjoys.

Ok thanks, you guys are right

Maybe you should watch last week's Last Week with John Oliver - loudly - while he's around - it featured a fantastically hilarious take-down of Info Wars.

Ugh-Alex Jones!!
Years ago my husband got hooked on our right-wing Fox News Network, here in the US.

I literally threw our tv set in the garbage. No more Fox News in our house after that.

Agree with Clueless-the John Oliver piece was excellent.

Haha, sounds like my XH who was a dyed in the wool chauvinist pig (realised this too late) yet claimed "love is always the answer" whilst spending many a time on saddo mens rights websites like "return of kings" and "rsd nation".

He treated the book "The Game" like it was written by Jehovah himself before going onto transform his twitter account into just basically fighting people who didn't agree with him, voting Brexit, and writing shit male power centred fiction online like a bargain basement David Foster Wallace.

Reader, I divorced him.

Do you discuss ideas with him, OP? I find the right-wing/left-wing dichotony really confusing because if you are against capitalism and pro-social jusitce you think you are left-wing and then it turns out it is right-wing to take a stance against banks, for example. I don't know who decided that.

I think you should be concerned because he obviously has some sympathy with these misogynistic views to be watching that shit.

Alex Jones is a class one loon, Fox news is comedy gold if you can see the OTT bias in it. I would be wary of someone believing what Jones or Fox say for that matter, Jones puts out some wack conspiracy poison. Would second the John Oliver he is superb, really funny as well.

pitilessyank American here too! And Ugh, Fox News is horrid too!

I think I'll do the john Oliver idea tonight hehe

I don't think you sound controlling. You only asked why he watched it, which is a perfectly valid question, you didn't forbid him from watching it. I would be worried if my DH was becoming increasingly interested in this crap in case it reflected/influenced his views on women, which certainly has implications for your relationship. He can watch what he likes of course, but treat with caution and don't put up with any misogynistic crap from him, if indeed he does start displaying signs of any!!

There's some pretty extreme views on MN too, dont forget. He might object to a lot of it.

I watch and read a variety of things, to (try to) avoid getting into an echo chamber. Hearing different views can be a good thing.