Would this do your head in or am I being unreasonable...?
DP is self employed and about half the time works from home. I work from home full time.
His office is the settee. He does literally everything on his phone or tablet, invoicing, emailing, marketing. His paperwork is a little pile of notepads/folders, which generally get hidden behind the side of the settee, as do his crisp packets, empty drinks bottles and anything he takes out of his Mary Poppins pockets.
Now we've spoken about him not using our living room as a dump and he now has a little discreet waste paper bin down the side of the settee too. I feel like I cant get too huffy about him being messy because I am also a complete scruff. The difference is, I generally go back to sort my disaster areas out. Also, my little pile of empty packets and coffee cups are on my desk hidden in my office where nobody else goes. Id never ask anybody to sit in that.
Theres plenty of room for him to share the office or create one in another part of the house but he doesnt want to. He likes to work with his feet up on the sofa. It used to be with boots on but we had a conversation about that.
Im not sure why but I am starting to feel a great deal of resentment about this settee HQ he's got going on. I genuinely don't know if im being unreasonable.
I find it quite hard to keep on top of my business, the housework and care of my DD (6) and ive started to want to put a bomb under the sofa when i walk past and hes lounging around on his phone.
To be fair he IS working, so whats my problem? It didnt used to be an issue.
Hes generally wonderful, really proactive with DD and does do a great deal. The thing is, we both pretty much work constantly. I either am spending time with DD or working. Time has to be specifically made for housework and its usually me who looks up and says 'right, we need to clean our mess up'.
I rarely get an hour on the sofa, there is always a job to do so it pisses me off he's there constantly.
He comes in, he sits in his spot and he literally doesnt move, until bedtime. Sometimes even if i go to sit on the sofa, i have to ask him to move his legs. DD often sits on his legs to watch Paw Patrol. But he's working. So im just being unreasonable???