I need some help please as the same thing keeps happening to me and I'm not sure anymore what I'm doing wrong and how to avoid it from happening again in the future
. Happily divorced for over four years I have been dating and have met several guys I quite liked in this time. Almost every time, over the past four years that I have met someone I rather like (and this has happened already five times, latest only ended last week) it has gone like this: we meet, date over a period of several weeks/couple of months, then they all invariably announce (and I believe they are genuine when they say so) that ''I am an amazing, special person and that they feel very lucky to have met me... but there is something missing and they don't see themselves having a relationship with me/taking it any further' . They all then ask to remain friends and in my life (one of them we have indeed become very good friends); if asked (I don't always do) they can't give a reason for not wanting a relationship with me, they might say there's ''something'' missing but can't explain.
Until there everything is quite normal. The problem is that in the same breath that these men are telling me they think I'm an amazing person yet they don't want a relationship with me, they're all invariably, and this is where it gets very confusing for me, holding my hand as we walk, gazing into my eyes, kissing me (tender kisses, forehead kissing .. wtf?!) etc ... basically behaving as if we were in an established couple. No sexual advances whatsoever (so they're not trying to get me into bed either; in fact they tell me/I can see they're attracted to me but they won't act on it which would be a good explanation for their behaviour).
So, what I'm trying to work out I guess is ... why are they doing this? Men often will say they do want a relationship yet their actions will say otherwise ....... my love interests seem to be doing the exact opposite 
. Really getting me down and there is definitely a pattern emerging so it must be something I am doing that makes them behave this way ...