Just having a moan really and some days I feel better than others - usually when I've had decent sleep!
Been with DH 7 years (oh god is this the 7 year itch!!) and have two young kids3 and 1. I feel like since we've had children we've given up on our relationship a bit (a lot) and just exist together trying to get through the day looking after them/working etc.
Sex is a massive issue - we've had it maybe three times in the last year. Now I feel awkward about it as it's become the elephant in the room too. Neither of us initiate it.
We never go out on dates as we have no babysitter and there is nowhere around where we live I would like to go out (maybe except the cinema).
We talk to each other mainly like friends. We don't argue a lot although I've noticed a lot of simmering resentment from my end which I shouldn't have. I feel like we are no longer equals anymore. Before children we shared everything. My DH earns more than me so was always going to be the one who went back to work after kids. I work part time but feel completely lost and adrift as I feel like I'm at a crossroads and don't know where to go work wise (if at all). Also the mental load. I never realised that having children would mean I would turn into a cleaner! And all that other stuff that comes with it - the remembering jab dates, shoe measuring, washing the towels, replacing the toilet roll, booking the gas engineer, buying the birthday cards etc etc. I just don't think he realises the extent to which all this mounts up. But how can I feel resentful as he works full time in a hard full on job!! I know I'm lucky really but it does get me down. I'm annoyed with myself that I never sorted myself out career wise earlier on and now I feel like a 1950s housewife in suburbia. It wasn't supposed to be like this!! I guess what I'm trying to say is I feel like we are now different people with different roles now we have children and I don't feel close to my DH anymore. I hope it will come back when the kids are a bit older.