What to do.

[User1235567]

So without going into too much detail, I split from ex about 8 weeks ago ( still living in same house at the mo whilst things get sorted ), about 4 weeks ago a old friend and I started messaging, we have meet a handful of times ( he lives 4 hours away ) we ended up doing ' things ' on the last time we met, I stated to him it was just fun and no feelings etc ( don't know why I said that because I know what I'm like but thought I could do it )
Last night I seen him in the cinema with another girl, obviously I went up to him and questioned him which he then said all I wanted was fun which he is right but I can't help but feel hurt, He has apologised over and over again and I have called a day on messaging and calling each other. I had a crap night sleep due to obsessively thinking about him and the situation and now this morning I'm dying to messaging him just to say forget about last night and let's carry on as we were because I do enjoy the company and some what attention.
I understand I may be coming across a bit needy but does anyone have any opinions, thoughts or similar experiences that they could share ?
Please be nice
Thanks

So you don't want to date him or actually be with him, but you also don't want him to find someone?
I think that's very unfair. You have made it clear that it's just causal and a bit of fun and you don't want anything from him so he well within his rights to go on dates and see other people. I can't believe you approached him last Might, I would just delete his number and move on.

I would stop having casual flings as you obviously can't handle them, which isn't a bad thing it just means you get attached and can't seperate emotion and sex, even if you think you can.
As I say that's not a bad things some people can some can't.

You say your living with your ex which has got to be hard and you are prob missing the intimacy and attention you used to get from him.
You need to move out asap, as I'm sure that situation is not great for you emotionally, and go through the breakup emotions. Concentrate on yourself for a bit.

It sounds like you need time on your own. Recover from your split and maybe something will happen with someone new down the line

How did you just bump into him when he lives 4 hours away? Are you stalking this poor man?

Yes, you're right, you're way too needy. You didn't want any kind of committed relationship, but don't want him to see anyone else either, totally unfair. You've only just split with your ex and need to take some time before getting involved with anyone else.