Cancer & Online Dating

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I'm in a massive mess right now. I have Cancer and I'm trapped living with my arsehole Ex..... but that's for another thread!!

Anyway, I want to try online dating, which I've never done before. I need some advice about which websites might be best to use. Ideally I'd like one with a keyword search (so I can find others with Cancer and they can find me) and I'd also like one where my profile is only visible to members, rather than to anyone clicking on the website.

Also, what websites are especially good for quirky people / those looking for something unusual?

I've checked the specialist Cancer ones, but they mostly seem to be non UK and hardly have anyone on.

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Bumping for you OP

Have you checked out the dating thread? Loads of good advice on there. Am unsure about specific cancer dating sites though.

In such emotionally difficult circumstances and with a serious health condition, do you think you are ready for the world of OLD? I am not suggesting people with cancer should not be dating, and any decent suitor would accept you for whatever diagnosis and prognosis. It would be a good test of their character as to how they respond to your revelation about health. OLD can be a predatory place full of married men, liars, players, serial daters and odd-balls so you have got to be careful as you may be feeling low about living with your ex with a life-changing diagnosis as well.

Of course some people get lucky and find a gem using OLD, but I think it is hard work and a long journey for most, with a bit of luck thrown in. Seems to be a world of kissing a whole load of frogs to find a Prince Charming.

It might be worth stepping back and considering who you want to date as well. Although someone with direct experience of a cancer diagnosis will have common ground with you on that matter, it is about finding someone who shares lots of common ground for a prospect of long term union.

I have to agree with scooby.

I'm a sensitive soul and just don't have the mettle to cope with OLD - I think you have to be quite tough and hard -headed to survive in it (unless you're lucky...). I recently had cancer and there is no way on this planet I could have faced the world of OLD at such a vulnerable time.

I don't know of any specialist sites but imo you'd need something highly specialised bcs you are currently going through such a vulnerable time. Imo! I appreciate this is my opinion and I may be projecting my own experience though.

Good luck with it all op

Thank you everyone.

Gosh, I didn't realise OLD was so.... scary!! Obviously I'm aware there are a lot of sex pests, cheaters, liars out there, but I suppose I hoped that if I found someone else with Cancer they may feel similarly to me and may also be a pretty decent person looking for similar things.

Am I being ridiculously naive??

The thing with OLD is you need to sift through the shit....... And there is a lot of shit with a few rare gems. It's your call but personally in your situation, I would concentrate on myself rather than throwing myself into the stressful world of OLD.