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Am I overreacting?

6 replies

PolkaDotGrill · 05/08/2017 22:19

So, my partner said something to me a couple of weeks ago and it's really upset me. I keep bringing it up with him and he says I'm being stupid...

I'll give a bit of context - this time last year I had a miscarriage, it was the worst thing I've ever been through and led me into a bad depression.

So, my period was about a week late and my partner asked if I could be pregnant. I said to him that I hope not as I don't think we're in the right place to have a baby (we've been arguing non stop for a couple of months). He agreed with me and nothing more was said.

We were in the middle of an argument later on that day and I said to him with all the stress we're going through right now, if I was pregnant I'd probably end up losing another baby and he said "Well it doesn't matter if you do cause you said yourself you don't want one."

I keep hearing the words over and over in my head. Am I being stupid? He's apologised and said he didn't mean it but I can't help that it's hurt me so much.

OP posts:
runningintothelight · 05/08/2017 22:22

Honestly, I think you're over reacting , he was just responding to what you were saying X x

chestylarue52 · 05/08/2017 22:33

Your problem isn't that particular thing your partner said, it's that you've been arguing over and over for months.

Mrscropley · 05/08/2017 22:35

Men never think before they speak.
Well known fact.

Sorry this is a shitty time for you.

RebornSlippy · 05/08/2017 22:38

He repeated what you told him, so surely your reaction is OTT? To be honest, I'm less concerned with the content of the argument as I am with the frequency. It sounds like you both need to really talk and reach resolution before deciding to go any further with expanding your family.

HumpHumpWhale · 05/08/2017 22:39

Well... it sounds a bit like you were suggesting that he might be to blame of you were to have another miscarriage as he's stressing you out by arguing with you. If that's how it sounded at the time - or what you meant - then I don't entirely blame him for saying that in the heat of the moment. Although it's pretty thoughtless.

lilforest · 05/08/2017 22:44

Firstly I'm very sorry about your loss. Flowers I also had a miscarriage last year and it crushed me. Personally I have found myself very sensitive about the subject of pregnancy/miscarriage in general. I don't think you were being stupid at all but I would definitely try to just lay it to bed as it does seem like it was one of those stupid comments people make in the heat of the moment. He probably feels like a tit for saying it. X

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