I have a date tomorrow and I'm terrified!

[ProfessorPickles]

I have a date tomorrow and I'm really nervous!
I haven't had a proper date in a few years, I was seeing someone for 6 months last year (ended up being a disaster) but because I knew him fairly well beforehand we never had proper dates really. So I'm well put of practice!

I've had a lot of some bad experiences with men so that's always at the back of my mind.

I know for certain he's a lovely man, he was good friends with my brother when they were younger and is already loved by my parents as my family have known him for years now.

I just really hope we click and that the conversation flows well

I've put on some weight recently so that's really knocked my confidence but hopefully when my make up is on and I'm done up I'll feel a bit better about myself! A glass of wine may also be handy

Just posting out of fear and excitement

Just relax and be yourself. Good luck

Put on a big smile....just be yourself.....enjoy....wear something you feel comfortable in....where is the date and what are you going to do

30 minutes to go!

It isn't ideal but he's coming to mine, where we live there isn't much to do on a Sunday evening without paying £40/£50 out in taxis and it was the only evening we had free!
I've had dates at mine before and they've been great so I shouldn't be as nervous as I am

Aw good luck op! Update us on how it goes :)

Good luck! Just be you

Thank you! He's due any minute
I'll let you know how it goes!

Placemarking!

Good luck !! Xx

Hope it goes well - my advice is to think about whether you like him rather than worrying about whether he likes you.

This will make you more relaxed and also better able to spot any potential issues.

Good luck

Good luck wishing you a lovely evening x

Hey prof...hope it went well...my fingers have been xed since the teacher days...( remember that thread lol)...go girl ...

Looking forward to update

Has he left yet OP?

Hey Sweeney!! That's so lovely, it seems like such a long time ago now but I bet it was about May last year so not that long really!

PrettyGreyEyes - he hadn't left by that point! he left about 1:30, which means we spoke non stop for 5 hours! There wasn't even 1 minute of awkward silence and it turns out he was far more nervous than I had been. He'd been really scared all day about our date!

It went very well but no kiss at the end or anything but he hugged me and said he definitely still wants to take me out one night

Fingers crossed we see each other again soon!

Great name and great advice HappyPooBum
Very true that you've got to remember a date is to decide whether you like them as much as it is for them to decide if they like you

I'm so glad it went well for you! Fingers crossed he follows through and messages you 😘

Joining in with Sweeney to send you good vibes and happy thoughts ProfessorPickles. May last year...and what a busy year it's been

Cannot stop myself from wondering what happened in the end with your young man last year...

Excellent news OP!

Following! I have a date soon, and I hate dating

Hey This!! It's so good to hear from you

What happened was we started seeing each other and it went great. When we were together he was extremely kind, he would always really listen to me, cared about what I was interested in an always encouraged me to be myself (past boyfriends have put me down, and insulted my music taste or anything at all that I liked for example, plus many other things along these lines).
He'd buy my shopping at the supermarket, we'd cook together and he'd even clean the kitchen as a surprise while I took a bath.

The problem was he was working a lot and we couldn't get together often, he also had some issues with drinking excessively which was sad.
I would end it because of how little we saw each other and he would be crying his eyes out but would never commit to a proper relationship, very bizarre. This cycle continued again and again until I ended it for good in February!

It still confuses me to this day as I can't understand how you could claim to care for someone and cry your eyes out, yet never make a change to improve things?
The way he treat me and the things he said to me made me feel so secure and like I mattered to him, but that mustn't have been the case.
It was a very sad and frustrating time, I still think of him and think he's a wonderful person but I'll never forgive him for the way he deceived me!

No hard feelings now though, he crosses my mind but I don't feel hurt anymore. I moved on reasonably well

Any news at your end This? I would love to hear what you've been up to!!

Ollivander84 - when is your date? who is he and how did you meet? I want the details!

I should add a second date is definitely on the cards! We've been messaging, he wants to take me ice skating but I'm too scared
I've suggested a meal and then on to a comedy club as we're both into stand up!

Well he's 25 6ft 6, we met on tinder!
Going for a meal and a couple of drinks, actual date TBC as I work shifts and we live in different areas

Oh, thank you for that update ProfPickles! So good to hear from you, truly!

I'll write and let you know about my VERY busy year probably this evening.

Have great day smile

That sounds exciting!! You'll have to let us know when you set a date for it I was terrified and it turned out he was far more nervous than me, so bare that in mind for your date!

Can't wait to hear back from you This!