This is a bit long, sorry.
DH and I have been married for nearly 20 years-we have 3 children. He works full time, I work part time-both in fairly decent graduate careers. He earns more than me (pro rata) probably because I've been part time for years looking after the children.
I do more of the housework, shopping, thinking what needs to be done etc as I am physically in the house more. He has a long commute and works hard but does need chivvying to do stuff around the house. That's just for a bit of context.
Last night-the food shopping order is done arrived and all of us stand up, start bringing it in and unpacking. He helps for a bit and then stands in the kitchen prattling on about some cod shit and sort of getting in the way. Our youngest comes into the kitchen and also gets in the way and I shoo her away (nicely) saying she's not being any help and is getting in the way-a bit like daddy. He then pipes up with something along the lines of, 'well actually, I paid for all this, thank you-so I am not being completely useless!'
I was a bit shocked at the time and said, erm-yes, thanks for that-can you just help please and he did. But I can't stop thinking about it and am actually really upset now. I don't really know where to start. I think that's a really shitty attitude to have about it. It's not all about amounts of money and that suggests he thinks deep down sort of thinks he shouldn't have to do it because he earns more than me!?
What would you say if your 'D' H said that to you? I want to bring it up but don't know where to start-I'm quite upset he even thought it, tbh. 