When to seek help - divorce

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Dear all

I am new here and hope that this is in the right place. My husband left me a year ago and is now divorcing me.

I manage my daily life, I go to work and occasionally see friends. I don't have many and not much support in everyday life. I am scared I am slipping into depression. I find it hard to enjoy things, I feel I just exist but don't re

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Don't really enjoy things or look forward to things. I cry a lot.

Has anyone used antidepressants to help them through? I feel like a failure but am worried that my low mood will effect my work. It's the only thing I've got left.

I just want to feel better.

First of all, you are not a failure, I would suggest going to your gp and explain how you are feeling , are you eating and sleeping properly ?, I am at tail end of divorce ( financial side) and I had to have help.
Have you managed to get a solicitor ?, and do you have any support...

Thank you, aunt, you replying means a lot. I do sleep, intact I'm so exhausted from holding it all together that go to bed at 8pm. Eating is ok but irregular, i hardly ever cook but have sandwiches etc.

My husband is being difficult over finances etc but I do have a solicitor who I trust. I did don in his officer though last week so no idea what he thinks of me now.

What kind of help did you have? Sorry you are going through this.

sob not don

My case is totally different to yours, years of abuse, dv, I had specialist counseling and over the last few months as its messy, I have had to have ad's.
Just go along and speak to your gp, they have helped the ad's, but I do not intend to stay on them for long, so many other factors with me.
Do you have dc's ?

This sounds horrendous, aunt, I'm sorry. Stay strong!

I always try to remember that I've got it good - there was no abuse, no dc. He just didn't want me anymore. I've got good things around me. No children sadly though.

Logically I know that things aren't that bad but my stupid mind just doesn't play along.

I have children, and thank you ,strong is what all us women going through this situation are famed for, so dig deep, have a chat with the gp, having that chat will probably be all you need, and if your do get a little extra help there is no shame ok.
You are not stupid, its your mind that just needs a boost to get over the shock, everything is going to be ok .
The financial side is the worst bit , it hopefully will be over soon.

Thank you, AuntSally. All the best to you .

Sorry you're at this place in your life.
You will get through it & come out of it fine. After all it's what is women do.
Go to your GP ask for help. Antidepressants do help. I've been on them before, during my divorce. They help you to find the extra strength we need from time to time.
Hope all goes well for you

Your solicitor has people sobbing in his office all the time, OP. It's completely normal for family solicitors. We don't think worse of anyone for it.