Stories of marriage and a family happening quickly when youre in 30s...?

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In recent months i have begun to panic a lot about being single. i am totally ok on my own, and if anything i am probably too picky with men. but my concern is this: i'm early thirties. if i meet someone, date, get engaged, married, etc etc, all this could take years before we get round to the family bit. all, literally all, my friends have been with partners for a minimum of 5 years by now.

any stories of it happening quickly? i feel i will always have missed out on that lengthy pre-marriage relationship, because those years in my twenties have already gone and i havent met anyone significant to have started building that relationship with.

Met at my 31st birthday, moved in within 6 months (renting) , bought a flat after 12 months together and fell pregnant within a few months of moving in, DS was born as I turned 33. We kind of forgot to do the getting married thing but I think we've missed the boat on that now (15 years and 3 kids together now!).

We've been married for two years and are expecting our first child. We got engaged 3 months after our first date and married 6 months later

Oh and we met on the worst dating website in the world lol.

Ps I'm now 33, I was 30 when we met, DH is five years younger

Split from douchebag XH at 32
Met now DH four months later
DC1 born 1 year after we got together
DC2 is due October

Found happiness I ever thought existed.

Well, I met DH online aged 28, so a bit earlier than you were looking for, but it was a whirlwind romance. We moved in after six months, he proposed five months later, we got married ten months after that. We weren't in a rush, it just felt like the right thing to do. Now, almost a year after our wedding, I'm pregnant!

love these stories so much!!

My top tip for OLD is drop the height filter. DH is an absolute gem but got filtered out of 90% of searches because he's shorter than average.I promise it makes no difference to what counts

Yep. Met DP at 31, he managed to get me in the family way pretty quickly. So huge evaluations of life and what we both wanted.
And now we're happy, together and have DS who's 6 weeks currently wiggling around on his jungle gym.
We met via online dating.
Had a few dates with a few ransoms, had one friends with benefits and was happy just bimbling around dating. I wasn't pinning my hopes on meeting someone so when the dates were brilliant I wasn't too upset.

My friend met a man when she was 33. Moved in with him a year later age 34. She's just turned 35 and is engaged to him, they have adopted pets and she is pg with their first.

Somewhat related, I left my h at age 31, small DC in tow and assumed that's it, love life over. Met a man my age almost instantly. I'm now 33 and he and I are still together, taken it v slow and he has just now met DC. Slowly building a little life together.

I have plenty of anecdotes of friends who met their partners at 38-42 yo and happily popped out babies, got married etc. It's not unusual anymore!

I will also say my new dp has a big group of friends our age (early to mid 30s) and very few of them married before about 32 yo. Most are dating either casually or seriously, or maybe living with someone. I'm the only person with DC. In their eyes, I'm v unusual to have already settled down into a family life ! They expect to only have that really happen in the second half of their 30s (professional jobs, building careers at the min)

Not me, but a friend.

She was 34, he was 36.
Met and married within a year, then had honeymoon baby.
Still together 10yrs on.

Met my DH, baby 16 months later and married within 3 years. Another baby the year after that!

Met dh at 29 am now 32 and married a year and six months pregnant.
We both were online dating but happened to meet in a pub, to be honest I wouldn't have chosen him online but I would have missed out

34 - Met my DH through OLD - probably went out with 6 or 7 men before him.
35 - Had our first baby and moved in with him.
37 - Had our 2nd baby.
38 - Got married
39 - Bought our first house together.

So it all moved pretty fast, mainly because of an 'accidental' pregnancy . Now in our mid-40s, we're still really happy together.

Met now dh late 2009, married June 2011, dd1 born March 2012, dd2 born Sept 2013. I was single throughout most of my 20s and was just shy of 30 when we met

Met DH in mid-thirties, engaged within a month, married six months later. Started TTC less than a year after that. Never lose hope

My sis in law met her husband on match in their early 30s, got married after a year and babies the year after. They both knew they wanted to settle down and made it clear on their profiles. Just celebrated 10th wedding anniversary

When I was 28, I had been divorced (twice, once due to getting married far too young and wanting different things from life, and once due to my ex's abuse and psychosis), and had tried having babies before but always miscarried. I'd started to think I would probably need IVF, and couldn't imagine affording it. I couldn't imagine anyone would want a twice-divorced woman with subfertility who wanted a family.

Met DH online. Within 18 months we were engaged. A year after that, we married ... when I was 24 weeks pregnant! Now, we have a 17 month old with another baby on the way next March (we always wanted two, so this is probably the last one).

My DH and I have talked a lot about how if you told us 5 years ago, "5 years from now you'll be married to someone you're crazy about, have a great life with a great job and a great kid with another on the way," we'd have wondered what you were smoking. Neither of us thought that this life was in store for us, least of all so soon.

Friend met her husband and married at 41, pregnant by 42, now has a DS aged 1 & at 43 is pregnant again!

Met DH online when I was 29 almost 30, got engaged 2 months after our first date, fell pregnant 2 months after that, married 6 months after that. Have been together just over 8 years now, married for 7 and have a 7yo, 6yo and a nearly 2yo together (I also have a 12yo from a previous relationship).
I had only been on 3 other dates previous to meeting my DH, they were complete nightmares!

these stories are so nice to read! ive been on quite a few dates but never felt that click. probably met up with around 35 people in the last 18 months but never a great vibe.

Met DH when I was 30, we were married within 18 months had DS1 jsut over 9 months after the wedding (honeymoon baby!) and DS2 4 years later.

Had 2 m/c's in between sadly.

Before that I used to wonder would it happen for me, had been in long term relationship that I realised after 6 years was not going anywhere.
He refused to come to a family christening with me, that was where I met DH!

Been together 20 years now.

Met DP online at 30. Our first due in 10 weeks, i'll be 33. We haven't gotten round to getting married but have set up two businesses, rennovated two houses, travelled a lot and got a dog.

Met DH through work - we'd chatted most days, but started dating after about 3 years when we realised that we really did get on well...

Met my fiance at 31, now 32 and engaged with am 8 week old. Met online after dating a few stinkers, then just knew he was special :) be open to it, know in your head what you want, and you'll find them x