Facebook or in person?

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Hi all.

I really fancy someone that I see several times a week,(in fact I have a massive crush on him!) and I've briefly spoken to him in passing, and I think he likes me.

I know that he's single. Don't know whether to face my fear and leave my number (which could be awkward) or press the 'hello' button on Facebook?! (He's not my friend on there).

Eeeeeek...any ideas?

Thanks.

Say hello on fb. It's not a massive deal and you never know...

Hi disconnected, well I've done it! No response yet.

When did you do it? I'd not panic for at least 72 hours. A lot of people don't have notifications on FB turned on, so he might not even check until after the weekend.

Oh OK. 25 minutes ago!

What is this hello button? I'm young and use Facebook constantly but have never heard of it?

I would have just FB messaged him myself just asking how his weekend is going and how is he?

It's new feature instead of 'poke'.

Would you? So if you like the look of someone and they just said hello, would you not say hello back?

Facebook is odd at times. Just had a randomer request me, with 5 friends, 2 photos and then their profile disappeared after 2 minutes!

I personally wouldn't poke someone on Facebook but that's just my personal style! I met my OH on a night out but we were already friends on Facebook through a mutual friend and I just messaged him the next day asking how his night was and we exchanged numbers and got chatting that way. I would have just popped him a message with a casual 'Hey, how are you? Good weekend so far?' And see what happens but I'm quite brazen with my dating style 😂 some would favour it, some wouldn't but it worked with my OH!

Aww how lovely!

It would be easier if we had mutual friends. Sounding miserable now but not sure whether it's worth messaging him...although I really want to. He's probably wondering who I am!

Might leave it a few hours. Thanks for the messages!

How do you know him?

I work at the same place but don't see him every day. I don't really know him.

I'd have messaged and said hello. But fingers crossed for you.

Thanks!

It's ok remember it's not a big deal to hello and he will now think of you. Play it cool - you are cool! X

just a 'hello' is fine - though teenagerish - if he knows who you are! if he might know your name, definitely best to message.

When are you likely to see him next?

Don't message now, ball is in his court, but for future reference I wouldn't try to start something with a Facebook poke!!

If someone Facebook poked/hello'd me, I wouldn't notice. I have a bazillion notifications on there but rarely open my profile any more unless it's for something specific.

Just in case you don't get a response, he's not necessarily ignoring you.

Fingers crossed op you hear back soon

Well he responded to my message, and we've been having a good laugh and a flirt back and forth today :)

Ohhh exciting op :)

excellent! and we do want further updates!

I'm still buzzing from our messages, he's seen my photos and been impressed, but he didn't recognise me. I'm now thinking that I'm kidding myself really as he's 11 years younger, would love to meet up but scared he'll think I'm too old!

Advice please....

We're planning to meet. The chats are now getting a bit cheeky and really enjoying a good laugh.

Shall I tell him now my age or when we meet? Playing on my mind a bit!

I would wait until you're out together then you can gauge his instant reaction rather than agonising over a reply back from him and second guessing what he says, etc. Glad to see it's progressing well

Thank you Lauren! Was thinking the same, he's not asked how old I am, he's probably aware that I'm older though.