My partner of 8 years is ghosting me

[Happyfoodie50]

I'm getting really hacked off with my partner. We don't live together and everything is fine if I go along with everything he wants. Yesterday I had the day off work to take my mum to the hospital and then she had good news and didn't have cancer as we thought so went out to celebrate and we went for lunch.Whilst I was out my phone was left on charge in the car and when got back he had called twice and left a horrid message and text saying thanks for replying to my text.As I hadn't replied within an hour he had gone psycho. This happens every now and again and over ridiculous stuff. It's like he wants to create an argument. Sometimes he sulks for weeks and doesn't let me in. I've given up trying to apologise as he's 50 so does anyone know why he behaves like this? Can't see how he can love me. These are ridiculous reasons to argue and hate the silent treatments over silly petty stuff.

Not sure that's ghosting, sounds more like sulking.

I couldn't deal with that I must say ! Don't think it's healthy!

Definitely not ghosting, I've been ghosted. Maybe stonewalling and at 50m seems unlikely he is going to change? How long has this sulky behaviour been going on?

If he actually was ghosting you, he'd be doing you a favour. He's a petulant, manipulative cockwomble.

does anyone know why he behaves like this?
To make you chase him? If he's 50, he's not going to change. I don't know about you, but I'm too old to put up with this kind of behaviour. Ghost him right back.

8 years in and you still don't live together? Sulking for days because you don't reply within an hour?

What does he add to your life?

50's too old to be sulking like a petulant child. Leave him.

Sorry meant to say silent treatment realise ghosting is a different thing. Agree this is tiring and feeling he creates drama so he can have some space and ignore me for a few days. I hate confrontation and try and make up pretty quick if have a problem so I dont understand purposely ignoring someone.

What do you get out of this relationship? It sounds exhausting.

My ex used to do this, even after I told him it was a trait I hated in people.

He's a sulky twat and it'll only get worse

Why have you remained in a relationship with this man-child?

People do weird things. No point in trying to understand them. If you've told him it upsets you and he continues to do it then pure and simple he's a twat.

Your mum possibly had cancer and he treats you like this? What the actual. Would you do that to someone you loved whose mum had just been given that news?

He does it to control you.

You showed him you had a life outside the relationship by not answering his text immediately (ie, not sitting over your phone pining for him to text you). Therefore he must make you suffer, until you realise that your only role in life is to be there for him at all times. His sulking is punishing you, so that next time you will answer him straight away (ie,, put your entire life on hold in case he is in touch).

He's training you like a dog. Leave him.

My ex used to do this when we first got together... he'd text me when I was work and if I didn't reply within minutes he'd call my work non stop. I got an official warning in the end, he didn't give a fuck. This was 10 years ago, I'm only just divorcing him now after a decade of horrific abuse.

Get the fuck out now. You might have been together 8 years, but as you don't live together I doubt you even know him that well. Or he's cheating on you and that's fuelling him to be jealous and possessive. It's how they work.

Fuck that shit

Great news about your mum. Id expect any partner to be absolutely delighted for me in this scenario. Not sulking because you didn't jump when he snapped his fingers