How to overcome this inappropriate crush?

[hairygrowler]

I've got a crush on a man who is 25 yeas older than me. He's in a position of authority over me, in a kind of teacher capacity.
My question is, for those of you who have experienced this, did you act upon it? And if not, how did you deal with it? It's consuming my thoughts now on a constant basis and driving me nuts. I've no idea if he feels the same, but I suspect that if he does he absolutely knows that he would never act upon it.

I have been in this situation, not once, not twice, not...well, you catch my drift?! As fun, and exciting and dangerous and mind-blowing it can be, I have to admit it never ends well! As much as in control I thought I was, each time, the ending was never pretty

Are you single? Is he? No judgement here, I've been in both scenarios, relationship wise.

If you do wish to take it forward into something, maybe drop him some flirty emails, or ask if he fancies a coffee one day (guaranteed, he'll know you're not talking literal coffee!)

Good luck, have fun & stay safe! X

Neither of us are single. I'm happily married and so is he. I have no idea why I've developed this crush on him because he's old enough to be my father and it's completely inappropriate for us to be anything other than teacher and pupil. He gives me the odd inkling that he feels the same but maybe I'm just searching for meaning in the things he says when really there's nothing.
Although he always keeps things professional between us we can talk for hours and I feel a real connection with this man.

Some of my best sex was with a director of a company I once worked at... He was at least 23 years older than me, it was absolutely fantastic! Until I blurted out at the Xmas doo that he was the best shag of my life!! Needless to say, he was forced to leave the company (and a 60k+ salary) and I've felt guilty about that ever since x

Brrrm brrrmm

Oh Aunty. Not as smart as I think I am, eh?

Haha

Good luck tho

You can get all the entertainment mileage out of it you want as long as it remains in fantasy land (that means leave Mr. Teacher well out of it, as a favor to him if not yourself).

It is, however, disrespectful to your dh to spend any so much emotional energy/time on another man. So stop it. It has gone on long enough if you are spending hours talking.

*Andtheband Not always so simple to just 'stop' these feelings though is it?

I don't actually want a sexual relationship with him. It's difficult to explain, but for some reason I find myself drawn to him and seeking his approval. I refer to the way I feel about him as a 'father crush'. Someone who I would have loved to have had as my Dad, but also strangely sexy in an unobtainable way.
I genuinely would like to stop feeling these weird feelings for him because I think the only likely outcome is that I'll embarrass myself if I act on it in any way.

Admit it, you encouraged your friend that send that text, didn't you? 😂
To put ideas in his head about you.

This thread is confusing as all hell.

Why do people ever develop crushes on older authority figures? It's a thing.

When you pass you'll never see him again and that'll be that. Just behave sensibly in the meantime.

If you truly want to get over it, avoid contact/conversation as much as practically possible without it looking like there is a strain (I'm assuming it's a classroom type setting rather than 1:1 tutoring/similar set up?). It will get better once you're outside the current scenario. After a year of two of separation you'll be ok facing them again. It's really easy to get admiration mixed up with other feelings in your head in these scenarios, esp if the other person is physically attractive. It does get better if you get busy with other stuff and give yourself plenty of distance from them.