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Original poster

Has Mumsnet made me irrationally paranoid? Is my husband having an affair

14 replies

catweasel44 · 03/08/2017 10:16

I have no real evidence.

Except - my friend texted, surprised that he is on Snapchat. I asked him a question about it and he said he didn't know as he's not on it.

He's been much nicer to me recently.

That really is it.

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SaltBae · 03/08/2017 10:22

Sound like mumsnet has made you paranoid!

Although you do have to actually download snapchat and sign up to it it's not a software that automatically registers people so I'd tell him that and ask again why he "didn't know" he was on it.

HotNatured · 03/08/2017 10:24

You have to sign up to it. I'm not on it because a. I don't want to be on it and b. you have to sign up to use it !

Mrscropley · 03/08/2017 10:28

Offer to go with him to the phone shop as it's clearly needing seen to if its downloading things on its own. .

GlitteryFluff · 03/08/2017 10:30

I don't have snap chat so I'm not sure what it's like but is your friend 100% sure it's him? Not someone else with the same name? Can she send you a pic of his profile or whatever to show you so you then have proof - then ask him again about it whilst showing him the pic?

mummymattersx · 03/08/2017 10:30

Well probably just made you paranoid.... but if your friend has him on snap chat you can see where he is on the map.....

OhDearToby · 03/08/2017 10:35

Can your friend see if he actually uses it though? I downloaded it ages ago and signed up, looked at it once thought it was confusing and uninstalled it. It would maybe look to my contacts that I'm on it though.

26milesofcbeebies · 03/08/2017 10:56

I have a twitter account but I have deleted the app and if someone asked I would say I'm not on it, because I'm not really, I just registered and can't be bothered to work out how to deregister. Could be that.

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 03/08/2017 11:05

Exactly what 26 said.
Your friend maybe wrong.

The map idea wouldn't work because you can deactivate that feature on Snapchat.

mrs sure fire way for an argument too happen. My husband said that to me I would not be impressed.

Why can't you just take his word?

Original poster
catweasel44 · 03/08/2017 11:37

I haven't got any reason to doubt him really. It just seems very out of character.

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Brahms3rdracket · 03/08/2017 11:54

26 and kungfu are right. Mumsnet is very good at inducing paranoia.

Windytwigs · 03/08/2017 11:55

Why can't you just take his word?
Grin

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 03/08/2017 14:30

windy
What's the Grin about?

It just seems like on mumsnet when somebody posts, it's always got to be worse case scenario.

I'm surprised nobody has come along and posted they think there is an OW, or to go through his phone or look through bank statements.

ImperialBlether · 03/08/2017 14:37

But on the other hand, there are some threads - many, many threads - with men who are behaving appallingly, don't you think?

Brahms3rdracket · 03/08/2017 14:54

Agreed kungfu, but give it time.

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