I'll try not to make this too long but give a little back ground detail. Been with partner for 5 years, married 2. We have a child.
The pregnancy was unplanned and he didn't want to keep him but I couldn't terminate. We stayed together but he pretty much acted like none of it was really happening, contributed nothing towards the baby. I felt really stressed and awkward the entire pregnancy. And to add his ex was causing a lot of problems (he has two other children with ex).
We carried on but I felt a lot resentment towards him and was untrusting due to the issues with ex. There were times he'd lied about seeing her/talking to her (not regarding the children). So this has always been in the back of my mind over the years. I was also suffering from pnd after having my son, which he's often minimised as basically nothing despite me really struggling for a long time.
Anyway fast forward to now and we argue a lot of the time. Seemingly pointless things that have just built up and up over time. And whilst I can see he cares about our child I feel he makes little effort to actually play/interact with him. He is unsupportive if I am for example ill.
It's got to the point where I don't feel the same way about him anymore. I have no interest in being intimate with him these days. And for quite some time now just have a gut feeling it's not right.
A few times now the arguments have got the point where we discuss splitting up and then reconcile. And it's happened again and this time I really think we should just walk away. But he is placing all blame on me for everything that's gone wrong in our relationship and saying I make no effort. Despite the fact I moved hundreds of miles from home to live with him (he's job relocates a lot). And I almost feel like I'm being coerced and guilted into staying because I apparently never try to make it work and I'll be ruining our sons life by splitting the family. But the thing is he really isn't happy in the relationship either so I don't understand why he wants to continue it.
I don't know how to resolve this with him unfairly blaming me for everything and not taking in anything I have to say about the situation.