What do you think about it?

[Dolphins23]

I live on my own with my kids, I have a boyfriend of nearly a year and only comes when he hasn't got work. Works nights so he wouldn't have a good sleep with the kids here

I was really really poorly, been sick, shivering but high temp, I had really bad pains in my stomach etc whilst he was at work, i couldn't sleep and when I asked for him come see me after he finish work But he said he couldn't do nothin to help me and to go hospital if I'm bad. And I asked if he would come check on me for 5 mins, he lives like 5 mins away from me but he said he would be too tired. And still the next night I still wasn't very well and he said he would come see me and stop over, but when he finished work he went straight his house and said he's going bed, didn't tell me he wasn't coming or nothin so I stayed up for nothin. So I kicked off sayin he doesn't care and want me. When he's ill most of the time (he's got ulcerative colitis) I'm like a slave to him, do absolutely everything when he's with me. Even when he's at his house I go to him with all sorts of medicines, food and drinks for him. And I got absolutely nothin from him when I became ill for the first time? He saying I'm in the wrong for being moody about it. I've got a house, dog, 2 kids and work to run after that I've never rang in sick because I don't want let anyone down. But I do all that. And all he has to do is go sleep and work What do u all think?

I think he's being a selfish man child x

I think you're wasting your time with him. I think you should dump his useless arse.

You're no good to him when you can't help him (or relieve him) in some way. This is your wake up call. He is too selfish to be worth any headspace.

I despise it when people do nothing but prepare for work throughout their whole lives. I get that we can't go partying every night if we've work the next day, but do NOTHING every night?!?! Pathetic

He sounds total effort

If you were my friend I'd go and help you out, never mind your boyfriend. Leave him, he doesn't care about you.

Yes, it would be normal for him to at least see if you need any provisions from the shop or some such.

I think he's a selfish, lazy, inconsiderate, uncaring arsehole.

This is a cross roads for you OP. He's shown you that he's willing to accept all the love, care and attention you give him when he's ill, but that he's not willing to give you the same and that you can't rely on him when you need him. He's telling you that you're wrong for being upset about this because he's not willing to address or change his behaviour and so is trying to turn it back on you.

What is he bringing to the table?

Get rid and find someone decent.

He sounds like a lazy selfish arsehole to me. I'd get rid.

Is he worried about catching your bug? He might be, because of the colitis.

I think you are wasting your time with this shit of a man. I think he preys upon your kindness and generosity only for his benefit. I think he really doesn't care about your welfare and he has proven this to be true. I think you deserve far better. Dump this selfish asshole.

Reminds me of my ex boyfriend.
Childish, they are.
I wouldn't stay with him.
IMO if that is how they act when we are ill imagine if we were to create a home & family with them and something more severe happened, what would they do?!
We need to know they're dependable, but they're children that we didn't give birth to.