Unbearably sad, please help me understand

[Teabay]

Was divorced last year (my decision) and now live with my DC in own house.
My mental health has taken a real battering and whilst I was not well treated at least I knew where I stood.
Why am I so tearful, why is life so hard and where did my get up and go, go?
I never anticipated I would be so down.
Have any of you been here, and how did you get out? I'm lost. Am I normal?

I think sometimes we worry about the past/future too much and need to try to enjoy the moment. Have a good day :)

Thank you.
Let's see what today brings - hopefully sunshine.

Fingers crossed on the sunshine! It does make things seem that little bit easier :)

(Bored of rain now, although it has saved me from watering the garden....)

Hi teabay, you posted on a few of my threads when I was leaving my ea ex. You were very helpful indeed. What would you say to someone asking the same question? I find it's super easy to have perspective on other people's situations but so terribly different when it's your own.

I'm six months in and still struggling with guilt of leaving despite knowing it's the right thing. Last night I went out for dinner with some mutual friends, he wasn't invited and I felt bad for that. Tomorrow I'm having a surf lesson with the kids I feel that I should tell him then I think wtf has it got to do with him. I want to get a puppy but I'm scared what he'll say.

Stupid really, anyway just wanted to say I'm sure it will take longer than a year, but each day is a step forward. It takes a long time to uncondition everything you've learnt to adapt to keep the peace in a relationship.

You're doing great ( and I have lots of moments where I lie on my bed and just stare into space wondering wtf is going on!)

Sometimes our plans don't match our reality but we can adapt and enjoy the new reality. I woke up today and the sun is shining here - and I thought I've got so much to be thankful for. I just needed a new perspective. Stay positive :)

Teabay I know exactly how you feel as I've been feeling the same way for the past couple of years since my now ExH and I split up. We are still amicable, he still comes round to see kids (nearly adults though) and there was no one else but it hit me much harder than I expected it to, especially as it was a joint decision! i've been on low dose antidepressants for a few years and although I really didn't want them, they have been helpful in enabling me to see the wood for the trees, rather than just a mass of black ahead.

When he started dating again, I even found myself thinking there was something wrong with me that I couldn't see the man that these other women found so attractive!!

Its getting easier though and getting the Absolute through was a big step. The only thing I can say is give yourself time - you are going through a big change - be honest with yourself.

Good luck x