Wish I could forget about him

[GreenerGrass1]

I'm currently going through a divorce, very early days, so I still live with my STBXH and we have 2DS.

I met a guy a few a few months ago on OLD, I initially only joined out of interest, at the time I had only just split with H.

It was just chat at first that progressed into sexting. I started to look forward to him messaging.

He lived an hour away but we eventually met up. Nothing happened apart from kissing. We met up a further 3 times and then we eventually had sex, just once. This was only ever an affair.

We have both now decided that I should concentrate on my divorce and sorting my life out and best not to see or text again.

That was two weeks ago. I can't forget about him. I am 40 and have never felt such strong chemistry or feelings for someone as I did for him.

How can I stop these feelings. I have deleted his number now but every time my phone goes off I'm hoping its him, but I know it won't be and that upsets me.

I cant see why you cant keep in touch, you are almost divorced, does he feels the same ?
After your divorce you might get together again,
Why miss a chance of happiness if you are both in the same mind and if he is prepared to wait

Was it mainly your or his idea to concentrate on the divorce? Seems a bit strange to have started something and then decide it's not the right time.

Whose idea was it to concentrate on your divorce yours or his?

Both our ideas really, for the sake of my DS.

The divorce only started a month ago even though we split in March. We will both stay in the house until it's over which could take over a year. I guess this is hard for OM to deal with.

My STBXH is very money oriented so I'm worried that me seeing someone else will make him bitter towards money and I'm worried about that for my 2DS.

OM said to get back in touch once it's over and I'm in my own place, but chances are he'll be with someone else by then.