I posted the other day about a date I have coming up in a few weeks. Not sure if I fancy him etc. We've been firming up plans, times etc and, as he's travelling a long way to see me, he's booking a hotel.
Now, I really don't know how the date will go, whether I'll 'like' him or we'll just get on as friends. I just want to go with the flow really.
But here's the thing. This will sound like a teenagers dilemma, but here goes! The children and I live with my parents. It's only temporary and I am paying rent to them, so not taking advantage in that sense, but until my tax credits claim has been processed, I can't afford to live elsewhere due to me working and having high childcare costs.
My parents are very traditional and have very strict views about relationships etc etc. I've been divorced once already, so am already the 'black sheep' and have had lectures about who I should see/whether it is right to be staying out etc when I was first going out with the chap who became my second husband. I didn't have to pay much attention as I had my own place at the time. I just know I'm going to get a lecture about it being too soon to start dating again, them wanting to meet him first, me being home by a certain time. I know this sounds daft - I'm 38! But as I say, they did it before. Only this time, I'm living with them. I'm worried they might actually tell me to move out if they don't 'approve' of my behaviour. I have nowhere else to go, so don't want to risk this.
However, from a safety perspective, would it not be sensible to tell them where I'm going and who I'm meeting? Although I have chatted online with this chap for months, we've never actually met.
So what would you do? Lie and say I'm meeting some girlfriends and might be staying out late with them, or be honest and say I'm meeting a fella?