I've never been particularly fussed about being in a relationship, although have had a couple of long term ones up to now, the most recent ending in divorce. I'm in my mid 30s and have been single for two years.
In those two years I've done a bit of casual dating and have had plenty of casual sex. But over the last few months I've been feeling this real urge for stability, and a boyfriend, and maybe even a family (always been v ambivalent about this)
I met someone in march who I saw for a couple of months, and when we 'split' this urge increased ten fold. I got dating straight away and have been seeing someone else for a couple of months now (after a few dates with other men). We haven't had a chat about the status of our fledgling relationship but it's fun, we have sex, we have shared interests, he seems kind... etcetc although he's only been single a short time
I was reading a thread on here earlier from a woman who says moving in after 8 months of dating was 'too soon' and most posters agreed. I found myself thinking 'gosh I hope I'm clear on whether I'm going to be living with someone much sooner than that.' Which is of course mad. Previously I wouldn't have considered living with someone so soon
Is this just my age? I have no interest in dating someone with which I see no future. I'm not sure what I'm saying or asking really. I guess - do things move quicker when you're older? Or not? What if it doesn't work out with the guy I'm dating now and I don't date anyone I like again for another two years? And then we get to know each other, then live together then consider children... I could be 40. When if at all do you have the talk with someone you're dating about where things are going?
Have others felt similarly when single a bit older? I was last single when I was 26 and this feels very different. And I've never been that bothered about this sort of thing before.