Would you ?

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Would you have a child by someone and end up renting your own place to get space, security a better situation for your little one set up home etc ,as other halve was dragging his feet and I couldn't go on sharing box room at home , be one parent, then let the dad put 100 pound week in pot towards stuff instead of doing it with me fully , he works away and is only home weekends, he sees this as just my place so all that I buy for it ect the running is on me, my argument is I'm with you tho ,we int apart , and I'm trying to make a nice home, it's your child you helped make her I had to move out my family home due to having a child, where as I could have stayed at home where life was easier , it's like he is kinda getting off Scott free in my eyes , it don't feel right or fair , can anyone tell me there thoughts please

You're already a single parent in everything but name, sounds like you grew up and he didn't. Do you want to be with him as things stand?

I love him and think I always will , been together around 4 years, but think my mind body soul you name it has given up

Sounds like time to cut your losses and go it alone.

It's wrong though int it ? To only chip in here n there , instead of doing it 50 50

It's very wrong, your his family and he should be paying 50/50. He's not a lodger he's your partner. Why are you letting him get away with this?

No wonder he doesn't want to pay anything he will have a shit load of money to do whatever he wants with while you struggle and that's not fair.

If he wants to pay fuck all towards his family home then tell him to go stay elsewhere when he comes back for the weekend, stop washing his clothes and making him food. Your not his maid.

If he's only back on weekends you should be claiming single parent from tax credits, you also get a discount on council tax, I really wouldn't be letting him stay at your house. I wouldn't even want to be with someone so selfish.