Wedding fears

[Italwaysworksitselfout]

Bil and stbsil getting married abroad (they live there). Dh is bm and there are 5 bridesmaids. Dd (15) has not been asked. Their wedding their choice. Pil cannot stop talking about it but talk in code because they don't want to give anything away (only people in the wedding party are supposed to know). They did let slip what the colour scheme was so at least I can plan my outfit 😄Sil has bought her wedding dress and she and mil sat discussing it when they came to see our new baby. They were looking online and when I crossed the room siltb covered her phone so I couldn't see. I'm really starting to feel left out and embarrassed as another not so close family member got to see it.
My dd is really close to her uncle and it's upset her that she never got asked to be a bridesmaid at his wedding. She thinks siltb doesn't like her. I'm beginning to think it's me that they have the problem with for some reason.
Don't know why I'm ranting as I've promised dd I'd never say anything to them and I did say to her that as it's their day and they get to choose who does what and when.
I have pnd so I'm really fragile at the moment and being a big baby

I don't think there's some sort of vendetta against you going on.
It was a bit rude hiding the phone in your house and I'd have said something at the time.
But it's tough with weddings. She probably gets to choose the bridesmaids and he gets to choose groomsmen.
I'm having wedding planning troubles too with bridesmaids... they all want to be bridesmaids so I think I won't have any just to not be unfair.
But tbh I had not even though of asking anyone on my fiancé's side of the family 😨

Just change the subject each and every time they mention the wedding. . They aren't I assume in the bloody mason's and need such cloak and dagger clap trap in your home!!

It's normal for the bride to choose her bridesmaids so I wouldn't take offence to your dd not being asked I wasn't bm at my db wedding but my other db was bm and sils db was usher so I was the only family member not in the bridal party. You got to get on with it. Covering her phone is abit extreme though but maybe she wants to keep it as a surprise

I know there's no vendetta and they can be really thoughtless at times but I thought we were a really close family. I'm not in the least bothered that I'm not part of the wedding tbh but dd has known stiltb since she was little and I think is just really hurt.
I didn't say anything about the phone as Id just come out of hospital with dd2 and had a house full of people....not one to make a scene unfortunately....