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How to end a marriage?

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Lesley1980 · 31/07/2017 00:01

Around 3 weeks ago I posted about my husband cheating on me & spoke about my options. My husband admitted he cheated but didn't think he did anything wrong as he was lonely, my fault for making him feel unloved blah blah poor him- it was just hook ups so no love affair. Anyways in the middle of this I went on a pre arranged holiday with the kids & my family leaving my husband behind. i thought I would come back from holiday, we would have a chat & everything would be sorted but I've been back for around a week & he will not talk about moving out, splitting the house, the best option for the kids or anything to do with the situation. What do I do? Do I just find a solicitor & tell him to sort it out? The house is in joint names so I can't throw him out. As Far as he is concerned what he did wasn't cheating, this isn't happening & he will not talk about it. He is even talking about buying a new family car for us all as if nothing has happened? If I'm honest I feel like I imagined the whole thing & im going a little crazy.

I could move back to my mums temporarily (hour+ from
Family home) but my daughter starts school in 3 weeks & she wouldn't have a place at a school near my mum & she would be disrupted again when I got my own place so I want to avoid that. I also don't know what I'd do for money as I only have about £3000 savings & he won't discuss anything so how can I plan? I know I can't get benefits because I'm married & own a house.

we play happy families until the kids go to bed & then we ignore each other or sit in separate rooms.

What's my next step? He has cheated on me before so there isn't any reason to stay.

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Naicehamshop · 31/07/2017 05:38

So sorry for you - this sounds like an absolute nightmare.

Go and see a solicitor asap and get the ball rolling, also tell all family and friends that you are splitting up. He can't just ignore this. Flowers

cafenoirbiscuit · 31/07/2017 09:23

Do you HAVE to stay where you currently are? The local authority would have to find your DD a place if you move in with or near to your mum, and she would soon make friends there. It will be far harder once she has started school, with disruption to education and friendships to consider. It's an ideal time to relocate.

Your husband sounds like such a twat. Blaming you, and now refusing to engage, like it doesn't matter. How dare he? Angry. I'd discuss your options with a SHL, leave, go back to where your support network is, fight him for half the assets, and have a fabulous new life somewhere else.
Good luck.

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