I managed to finally set free

[ojojoj1]

I met this guy online a year ago a first few weeks were great but now I know I was being love bombed and manipulated. Than I was ghosted for ages . He had issues with depression and custody battle with his exWe met in April had great sex which I don't regret it was ok for a while than hot and cold blowing again . Today I logged in to the dating app and recognised him . Completely different log in details he told me yesterday he can't chat as he was ill . So I just asked him straight whether he thinks we should stop he said he doesn't need the drama today as he is in bed. Never mentioned the app I forced him to admit it that's it . I feel really sad but also relieved as all that drama of not knowing where I stand was exhausting me . Please hold my hand as I can't afford a meltdown right now . I have very important project at work that I can't fuck up .

Don't worry about him, he's a prick. Your work's important, focus on that. You're well rid. You've worth more than that prick. for you my love.

for you. Hold it together. Sometimes when I can't afford to unravel I give myself a date when I can. So I will say to myself 'in two weeks I can crawl into bed and feel hurt but not till then' usually by the time that date comes round I do t even need it. Sometime I do need it and I allow myself a bit of wallowing.

I have 2 weeks to keep it together

One day down. Keep going. Another thing I do is just keep repeating ' just keep swimming' over and over.

I had a rough day yesterday worked till I passed out I can't believe I'm properly grieving that arsehole.

@ojojoj1 how are you going now? You have made it this afer. But please don't work till you pass out.

I got my job interview behind me today for a new role . Done my project completely at peace now . I always thought it was bipolar that kept him blowing hot and cold but I think now that's the narcissistic behaviour in the best disguise

Well done. Two big things out of the way now. Just take a moment to tell your self that you did really well and that you are proud of yourself for getting here. Your OP and your last post are quite diffrent. Do you still feel you need a melt down? What about a planned indulgent day instead? It is okay to grieve a relationship.

I don't know about indulgence I had some cake yesterday though does it count ?

Cake counts. Have some more.

I will try Wing I have to get my shit together and see my GP soon don't really see the point as it's the situational but took my wellness testcard yesterday at work and it's not the best score 😕