Hi all!
Okay, so it's been a suppppper long time since I've been in the dating scene, coming out of a 7-year relationship earlier this year (and for the most part it was a crappy relationship, so definitely happier now).
THOUGH so many questions about the current dating world.
Back in May I joined a dating website, and had hit it off with a really nice man named Rob. We spoke about 2 1/2 weeks via text and chat before setting up our first date. He is 32 and I am 33. He's literally like no man I've ever met before. He is very creative, and very 'at peace' with himself most times. Sundays he shuts off the phone completely to relax and meditate. This is something he was upfront with in the beginning and his friends have confirmed this as well (so not being weird). His longest relationship ever was 10 months...so granted he's used to being on his own a lot. Earlier this month he went away for a week to another country, completely by himself to take photos, write and meditate.
We seem to have hit it off quite quickly, but in the world of 2017 dating, of course I start to overthink things, are hope things move at a faster pace. Though my 7-year relationship started fast at the beginning and that ended poorly so I know the warning.
We have been seeing each other about once a week for the past 5 weeks. He travels Monday through Thursday morning for work, which leaves him out of town few days a week so just sometimes our schedules don't align (And yes I know all about his job...he owns his own business and works on some high profile projects with 2 colleagues...he doesn't have a secret family lol).
I've meet a couple of his friends already. He's met most of mine, and even attended a function with me for work last night. My boss absolutely loved him and they realized they grew up in the town over from each other. He's really personable, funny, pretty outgoing, creative, smart, and then he also has this other side where he kind of closes himself off into his own little world which does indeed takes some getting used to on that side.
Sometimes he goes days at a time without shooting me a text (to be honest I can't remember the last time I spoke on the phone to anyone but my Mom so I don't hold not "calling" against him), but mostly it's because of the odd hours he has with working on his projects, especially when traveling. He does seem to make the effort to see me, and sometimes when he doesn't have time to text he'll send me a picture of him at work, or an acknowledgement that he knows I'm around.
He's wonderful, and the only department he lacks in is messaging back in a timely manner (His phone last night showed 47 unread messages because he forgot to charge it all day lol).
We've been intimate since our second date, but not fully until our third. I feel like he's not in it 'just to have sex,' because he doesn't text me lewd things throughout the week implying so, and we go on actual dates...to dinner, to events, etc.
Last night was a bit different though. I feel like things took a more serious turn but I'm not 100% sure, because like I said, I haven't been with anyone else in 7 years or since the breakup in general.
We went to an event for my job, and we had a great time. It was in a swanky/hip members only hotel and lounge in New York City. We mingled, we had dinner and drinks, we danced, joked around....possibly one of the best nights I've had in my life. Every time I was across the room, he would look back and smile at me and wink. I think it was also the first time we held hands with each other actually. He had taken mine in his when we were sitting on a couch at the event. To say I'm falling head over heels for him is an understatement.
We started to get a little hands on and decided to go back to his place about 4 hours into the event. We made out in the car for a bit and (sorry if TMI here), fooled around from 11:30pm to 3am (then once after that, then in the morning). It was incredible to say the least. Somewhere throughout the night on the drive over he cutely called me "baby"...which was unusual for him but made me feel like he was more comfortable. Last night was also the first time he asked me to stay over, which I did. While lying in bed we also talked a bit about more serious things....usually our conversation is more casual or not 'everything at once,' so to speak, before dozing off. This morning he was heading up to visit his parents for the weekend, and I dropped him off at the bus station which he seemed a bit surprised by (he was going to call a cab and I offered). We (somehow) had sex before we left this morning again. He's very intense, very passionate. He also kissed me goodbye several times this morning before boarding the bus.
In the world of 2017 dating, are these good signs? Especially since last night when we kind of dived into new places? or am I head over heels too fast? I seem to be magnetically drawn to him.
(The only thing that gets me sometimes is he goes off the grid for a few days. But even when he doesn't have time to dive into a conversation at the time, he makes sure to bring up something I messaged him that he didn't get to reply to, when he sees me.)
Thanks all!