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Where DC are involved

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Whatswrongwithme2 · 29/07/2017 19:42

I would be grateful for opinions on this as I don't feel I can talk to anyone in RL. I've been with my DP almost a year now. All going really really well. He has DC. I don't. He has then half the week, he's a great dad, dotes on his kids, amicable with their DM etc. All sounds great right?

Given how long we've been together the conversations about meeting them are starting. I have no problem with this. Although I don't have kids I'm an involved aunty and work in child protection. However I'm scared. What if they don't like me or I don't take to this role at all?

Also I have a very busy job with long hours and often have to work at home in the evenings. I do know that his DC don't settle at night and one of them is up and down all evening until late when they eventually crash out. I believe I'd find this very frustrating if I was there. I would never ever criticise his parenting, that's not my place at all but I think I'd find that very wearing to be honest. Although I obviously would be there at bedtime for a long while yet.

Do I just bite the bullet and hope for the best? It's nerve wracking. I've never dated a man with DC before

OP posts:
SandyY2K · 30/07/2017 14:02

Just be yourself and be friendly with them. Take an interest in them and include them.

viques · 30/07/2017 14:07

Maybe meet them on neutral territory for a few times first, say a film and a meal afterwards before you have to leave. Get to know them, as dad's girl friend , but not in their space.

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