Right here goes -
Having dinner last night and Sister phones up - DP picks up the phone and has an amiable conversation with her. Puts the phone down and says I better call her back when I've finished cause she said she had been ill (oooohhhh I've been pregnant thanks for giving a shit about me and for sending your neice a birthday card and present!!).
Anyway I rund her back and she spoke without drawing breath for 15 minutes about how she had something wrong with her ears, had been to casualty and there was some fluid build up that had affected her balance and made her be sick - comments like 'you know how I am when I'm sick, can;t do anything have to be looked after and cry like a baby' were repeated often! (Get a fucking grip you are an adult!!) - anyway the first thing I said about me or my family was - ooohhhh I was sick at work yesterday afternnon - I am sure I said it but she did not even acknowledge that I had so I said it again and silence - she then said and I just don't know what to do about my job now - (er are you ignoring everything I say??) - so I just said well whats wrong with your job - 'well you know I don;t like it and want to get another one (I have tried to help her but she thinks it will come knocking a great well paid job in London when she has not held a job for more than ayear and has no experience of working anywhere but locally for the last 15 yeasr!!) and they have now taken me off of my temp contract and employed me full time and they did not even say anything to me about it - I said that there must have been a date agreed when she was no longer a temp and was to be taken on and she said no - she hasn't spoken to her boss about it yet cause she has been ill and get this - she then said 'Well I immediately got on the phone to ACAS about what my rights were' - I asked her why she had done this as she should have just waited and sat down and been honest with her boss and tried to come to some sort of arrangement about notice and gibving her time to look for another job and getting confrontational and spurting things abuot ACAS and rights would probably mean her benig treated far harsher and without then agreeing notivce and helping each other out till she got another job.
She then shouted - Oh you don;t understand do you always trying to give me advie - I suppose you are going to start on about how long I should stay in a job next - I sai well more than 6 months is advisable if you want to come and work in the city - What the fuck for no one will take me on - er no they will take you on but you are going to have to start as a junior doing filing and stuff like that because you can;t walk straight into an investment bank and expect to get a super duper job - its that way it works!!
Anyway I then suffered another 20 minutres of her talking about herself and her problems before I asked her if she heard when I said I had been sick and did she not think that it would have been polite to ask me how I was or at least say oh poor you rather than just ignore me. Her answer was what do I expect pregnant women are always being sick - I said no I am not a sicky pregnant woman and at 23 weeks they are not always sick as a rule and whilst we were about it did she forget to send DD a card or was she trying to make some sort of point by mot sending one because I don;t care if she is cross or envious about me being pregnant but I would rather she didn;t treat DD like a piece of shit because of it!!! - Anyway - why was I moaning I have a perfcet life, nothing in my life has ever been as bad as hers, I have DD, DP and baby on the way, a big house (3 bed semi not exactley Southfork) a good well paid job (er yes after working my arse of for years to get experience and credibility) and plenty of money - er no I am actually in debt after all the custody stuff and am still paying for the divorce and getting shit all from x2b to look after DD as well as pay a childminder and the usual things that you have to buy with no help at all from her father - anyway I said to her that there was no way I could carry on helping her and being there if I got absolutely nothing in return and didn't she think t would be nice to ask how I was and if anything has been sorted with x2b and if Ihad any problems - No she said I have DP to do that and what did I do that was so great that meant so much Well held your fucking hand all the way through the worst experience of your life whilst having to deal with fighting for my daughter in court a nasty violent x2b and then having a breakdown ending up taking sleeping pills and having expensive counselling to stop me stepping in front of the nearest bus oh as well as taking over a week off work to keep you company and make sure you were ok!! and I don't expect thanks or a present or anything like that but I do expect you to at least ask if I am ok.
Well she then said that if I was not going to be reasonable and contribute to the relationship without getting angry she couldn't have any kind of relationship with me at all - I said fair ebnough and she is making ahuge mistake because she is missing out on DP, DD and her new nephew but thats her choice.
I know I should be kinder probably but I am sick of having to forget about me and how I feel and think and being there for her and letting her get away with being pathetic and selfish - nothing is ever her fault and she is always being shit on apparently when things happen in her life mainly because of bad decisions she has made and the way she treats people and how confrontational she is!!!
Anyway rant over - I am now an orphan without any siblings - to top it off DP got cross with me for getting cross and I feel a dope because I am enbarrassed that I have this shit to deal with when he comes from the fucking bradey bunch!!