I've ended it :)

[Freeandhappyyy]

Anyone else finally dumped the horrible controlling, emotionally abusive OHs? I've just threw mine out this morning as he was getting wayyy out of hand! I feel great at the minute but I'm waiting for the emotion to kick in...

I did. It was the best feeling, I finally felt free. It got so bad at one point that I had to ask him what I was allowed to wear. After a few months of this, something inside me snapped. After I dumped him, he started crying, stalking me, calling my workplace telling me how sorry he was, how I was making a mistake, how he was a changed man, how he would never taken me for granted again, how I could dress how I wanted...

I stayed strong and he finally got bored of me. I am now with a lovely OH and cannot believe the difference it makes being with someone who does not put you down, control you and playing the constant mind games with you. I can also now wear what I want and go where I want.

Don't look back op. Best of luck

Yes. 2 weeks ago. Narcissist, sociopath, gaslighter. You name it. He's tried hoovering, direct and via my DCs (not our, we have no shared DCs). Then rejection - nasty "you are dead to me" messages. There is one final issue to be sorted out which is important to me but not for him, so I'm trying to keep things on an even keel. Today I had the "I am so sorry that I did not tell you I loved you every day, that is my biggest regret" sort of conversation. He has blocked me on everything, but calls/messages when he feels like it, but I can't respond.
I know I am still being manipulated.
My friends are all "babysitting" me. I am lonely and scared, and massively in debt, but I know it's the right thing.

I am in the process of leaving my very very soon to be ex partner of 9 years but due to circumstances I can't just up and leave.
But just signing my new tenancy agreement on Tuesday and verifying I will be able to fight for my step son has made me happier than I ever thought possible.
Well done OP xxx

Well done us all! It's hard when breaking up all the happy times pop into mind, but I really need to remember all the shitty times, all the names I've been called and all the times he put me down. We're definitely worth more than those narcissists girls xx

Weighing up what to do about my relationship but the house we live in isn't mine and I'm scared of custody battles. Following this thread with interest. Well done all of you.

I've done it after 7 yrs should never have gone with him in first place!!