Hello all. I am in a relationship with DP for nearly two years. We plan to get married next year but i am not sure anymore if this is a good idea.
For the last year or so we argue a lot. If i dont fully agree with him, if i offer a different explanation for an event than the one he has in mind (i dont think that your boss is against you or are you sure that your neighbor was talking bad about you, it could be for someone else etc) anything that doesnt 100% agrees with his opinion is an attack and i become the target of his anger.
The attempts to fix this and be as we were at the beginning of the relationship always failed, soon or later he will explode again. Lately i became snappy and i get upset over things that normally wouldn't bother me. The reason is that i can not longer forget and forgive some of the things he said and they are constantly at the back of my mind.
He says that i cause the problems because i hold things against him . I am apparently pushing him away and i am ruining the relationship. I would appreciate opinions please