Soft spot for ex

[Dillygal]

Ladies, have you ever developed a soft spot for an ex after so many years? :) I bumped in to him quite unexpectedly when I was shopping with a girlfriend couple of months ago..Few days later, he contacted me at work and we had a very brief chat - just the regular stuff about work, families etc. Some things he mentioned in that conversation really piqued my curiosity, so I did some social media sleuthing about him :) I found that he is really pursuing some of his passions he discussed with me 15 years ago, which brought back some old memories..I'm really proud of him and happy to know that I may have played a role in his accomplishments. Have you ever been in a situation like this? Should I continue engaging with him?

Are you both attached now? If so, have you told your oh that you're corresponding?

Just wondering why you broke up in the first place?

If you're in a relationship, or he is, don't be ridiculous.

Yes, I am attached.. not 100% sure about his situation..I did mention to DH that I met him, but didn't feel its necessary to share the subsequent phone conversation

Why didn't you feel it necessary?

I have a huge soft spot for my ex, but not in a wishful or wanting way. He's just such a good guy (something I didn't entirely appreciate 22 years ago, when I was 23. He's done so well and has followed his dreams and has been with a wonderful woman for about 15 years now. We got back in touch about 10 years ago. We both share an incredibly stupid sense of humour, so I think that's our connection... that and music. But I know what we are and what we are definitely not. I made sure I drew my lines in the sand so that I wouldn't get false hope or funny feelings in my head. 10 years ago, I had the chance of having a really great person back in my life and I recognised that.

I wouldn't rekindle anything if you're thinking of a relationship (unless you're both available and things are heading in that direction communication wise) because it can be really disappointing and this can get in the way of what could be a pretty cool friendship. Expect nothing. Just keep in casual and see what happens.

Flip this.

Your DH starts cyber stalking an ex, see's what he likes & then asks you whether or not you're comfortable with him doing it, as he has feelings for her?

Think you have and no your answer already

Know not no!

I bet your dh would disagree that you didn't need to mention the telephone conversation. How would you react if you found out dh was in contact with an ex he still has a sort spot for?

I suspect the reason you've posted is down to guilt.

Thank you so much TheVanguardSix for your insight! I think my situation is very similar to yours... :)

Brahms3rdracket is too quick to judge..

People, Don't bother responding if you are being judgmental about my situation..

I'm people only post responses op wants to hear

Yeah Brahms