Less texting after 4 dates

[runningintothelight]

Hey,

So I met this guy who blew my socks off. Great dates , he'd text everyday or like photos online etc . 4th date was awesome too ( Friday just gone ) and we came home and since then ... his interest seems to have gone way down ...

He's not intiatiating texts anymore , he'll respond pleasantly if I text him first , but I don't want to feel like I'm pushing it . I know he's working early till late this week , and at the weekend he's away till next Thursday ... but I feel it takes 2 seconds to text someone ?

I did call him on it , I asked him if he had a spare night this week and he'd said maybe , then I heard the next day that he couldn't but maybe when he's back. I gave him an out , like ' maybe doesn't feel me with confidence that you want to see me again ' but he came back with ' it's that I don't know your schedule lol'

Am I overthinking this ?? I refuse to text him until he's at least back from his trip.

Oops I don't mean you have made a dick of yourself. I worked that badly -I meant I did as well!

No worries , I didn't take it that way ;)

HNTIY
But at least he is freeing you to find someone who Is into you

That is true ! Thanks guys 😍😘

Update for you ;

Messaged him asking how his trip was after a week silence ( but he's still liking pics on social media ) I was done wondering so thought , Fuck it !

He read it and didn't respond.

Next please :)

Fuck him! Onwards and upwards for you xx

Yeah onwards and upwards !

After dates round London , London eye , a musical etc I thought wow ! This guy is such a gentleman etc etc and if he can't even have the decency to tell me that he's not interested , then he's not the guy i thought he was , and therefore not the guy for me !

:)

What an arse. Like you say it takes two seconds to say sorry but im not feeling it, but I wish you well. People are so rude!!! I guarantee it was nothing you did wrong and the issue is with him. Onwards and upwards runningintothelight

If I understand you had all 4 dates in 1 week, which was last week? Maybe it's a bit soon to be pushing for some sort of commitment or expecting something like that. Are you able to put this to one side and then if he contacts you then see how you feel. Or does it feel better to just knock this on the head? It kind of sounds like he's cooling off

No one was pushing for commitment really, he was the one that pushed for the dates so I'm a little perplexed ,but I'm not going to let it bother me . He's not the guy I thought he was because I always appreciate honesty, and any potential future partner should also have that trait .

I don't understand why so many guys take the easy way out, everyone has feelings and it's unfair to mess with others. Luckily, I'm quite strong , but some of my girlfriends aren't and take this so personally that they have given up on dating completely !