this is going to be a long post so i'll apologise in advance...
I'm a single mother of a fantastic daughter, and the step-mum to 3 other kids, two grown ups and one toddler... I'm also in contact with my ex's kids and their Mum...
I split up from my daughters Dad when she was 4 and we have always had an amicable relationship.. no major fall-outs or issues, it was just the two of us for a few years until I met someone special who had two children and an ex wife, and although they had their issues, all the kids got along well and his ex was always very amicable and again, no real issue... my ex had mental health issues that took it's toll on our relationship so after 4 years together we split up...
18 months after I split up with my ex, I began a relationship with someone I had known for years and at the time I felt I was ready for a new relationship (although in hindsight, I probably wasn't)... he told me that he was going to be a dad but that he was never in a relationship with the woman but he had agreed to financially support her and play a small part in the childs life.... I thought that was a decent thing for him to as he said he felt that the woman had planned it to trap him etc (looking back I should have seen the warning signs but I didn't), anyway, my ex was still in my life as our children kept in contact but when he found out I was dating again he got very upset and committed suicide...
It was a complete shock and we (me, my daughter and his children ere absolutely devastated) both my daughters Dad and my new partner were so supportive... I continued with my relationship in a bit of a blur, happy to have support and love, during this time he proposed to me but the woman that is now the mother of his child sent upsetting texts to him and when the baby was born, made demands and in general was a complete cow.... wouldn't let him see the baby, told him exactly what she expected him to pay for, that he needed to get her a bigger house, that she was 'entitled' to his money etc..
We got married and throughout our marriage the mother of his child did not change, we made sure she had plenty of money and met most of her demands (to keep the peace) but.... it's now at the point were I've had enough...... I cannot deal with this woman using her child to force herself into our lives... my husband made the decision (with the support of his older children) to stop seeing the child because of the mother...but it all feels like such a mess and I just cannot understand why it's all gone wrong when I have such a good relationship with the other mother and step mums, kids and family... I feel emotionally drained and can't cope any more... I'm not sure what to do to get some peace in my life..
I'm not sure what answers i'm looking for as reading through my post, I sound like an emotional wreck who is weak but I'm not, I've run my own successful business throughout all of this and have an amazing relationship with my daughter, a good relationship with my ex's children and a good relationship with my husbands other children ...