How can I stay strong and be supportive?

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DH is going through a really shit time lately. He feels crap about himself, his achievements, his prospects and is having to work really hard to sort out a couple of crap things with work.

I'm finding it really hard to see him struggle. He's not himself. He's really down but also stressed and said he feels like he's losing his identity (change of career).

I went away with Ds for a week to give him space as he's slightly introverted and I thought that would help but he doesn't seem to be any better now I'm back.

I'm pregnant and so so tired but trying not to dump too much on him but just don't know what to do to help. Ds is six months and going through a really bad sleep phase and combining that with morning sickness and worry about dh,I feel really sorry for myself.

I'm just after pointers on how to hold it altogether both emotionally and practically. I know dh would do the same for me

Do you have access to counselling yourself, through work or anything? Or do you have a good friend you could offload on who will respect your privacy? I think it's often having to keep it all in and not being able to talk to someone yourself that ramps up the stress of being supportive.

I had a therapist who I was seeing for a number of years. DH has just started up with her so I think from a boundary perspective, I can't see her for now.

I'll book a coffee with a friend, she's being really supportive by text. Thank you