I have posted a fair bit about my marriage & things are soooo much better but I am finding one thing in particular quite frustrating. Just to say that it certainly doesn't happen every time but sometimes when I call DH on how he's spoken to me,for example, he will turn things around & talk about how I am behaving. It's like he just doesn't want to accept any responsibility. The other day I shouted downstairs " Do you want a cuppa?"& he replied (quite grumpily I thought) " If you want". When I was making the tea I said ( keeping it light) " You could maybe say please " & then I was accused of telling DH off in front of DD. I started to talk about what happened & DH said I should know by looking on his laptop that he was busy when I asked him & that's why he replied as he did - but I was upstairs! Then I said he couldn't expect me to know what he was doing & he said he wasn't expecting me to do anything. This is where the frustration comes in because he has an answer for everything & there is always an excuse. I wish he could just say sorry for speaking to me like he did & that would be it! He does apologise but then it happens again. We're all grouchy sometimes, I know, but is it really that hard to hold your hands up? Any thoughts?