H has stated same desire do up our property at last before we retire. Both work fulltime. He has money in an account but refused for years to make it a joint account so I could access funds to project manage. Until he did this I refused to start any work as in the past he refused to give me the money and I got a court order against me. Lovely.
He said he will do the garden which is a massive task. So he sacked my gardeners and it went to ruin.
So he has employed some little old man to do it on an ad hoc weird basis. Today the garden is full of weeds etc and he began to build a wall that nobody asked for. Strange. If I mention this h says he knows what hes doing and takes offence. All a bit cheapskate if you ask me.
So I decided Id had enough and said we need to do it properly. And he confirmed my fears that yes he didn't want to spend the money.
I'm at the end of my tether with the frustration he is causing but he continues to put obstacles in the way.
So I will have to assume there is another motive.
Told him I cant live like this and will seek to leave.