I have a very rocky relationship with my mother in law, she's very immature and childish and even her own sons agree she makes everyone around uncomfortable when she gets a mood on. Sometimes I don't even want to be around her and just want to get as far away as possible from her whilst at other times she is like one of my best friends.
My brother in laws girlfriend doesn't like me for some reason even though we have never properly talked, at times she annoys me but I don't dislike her 🤷🏼♀️ MIL takes advantage of this and likes to stir shit between us, there have been times one of us has said something and she's ran to the other and told them but twisted it to make it sound bitchy even though it wasn't knowing we would never talk to the other person to work it out. Tbh even if we did talk to each other it would only make things worse with her and she'd probably lie and twist things to make it seem like she never actually said anything. She also plays this stupid little game where she can only like one of us at the same time, so if all is going well with me she will pick faults with BILs girlfriend and if things are good with her she picks faults with me. When things are going good with both of us she pretends to each of us the other has done something wrong or she doesn't like us but still be fine and all sweet to our faces. I am not 100% on what things she says to BILs girlfriend about me but she is always saying to me almost daily that she is a stupid bitch, she's had enough of her, she loves it when she isn't around, just really petty but still quite nasty stuff.
Tbh I've had enough of it now, I've put up with it for years and I just don't know what to do now as it's really starting to effect how I feel about myself and starting to take its toll on my relationship. I wish I could just cut her out of my life but unfortunately that's just not an option. She is an amazing Nana to her step children's kids, something I look forward to having for my own kids, and at times she's an even better mum to me than my own mum.
There is so much else she does that upsets me but I won't get started on that because we'll be here all day and her shit stirring is for me the biggest issue!