Starting to date again in early 40s

[Startingoveragainandagain]

Just that. I've been online dating for three months and am getting disheartened with it. My partner of 20 years and father of my four children died three years ago, I've had a lot of counselling etc to cope with this.

I meet men for dates and they all seem so old in reality or have no get up and go in them. I adored my late partner because of his humour, his drive for life and I can now see just how gorgeous he was. I hate the thought of living alone for the next 40 years but am scared noone will give me the goosebumps that my late partner did.

Hi, sorry for your loss, I'm sure it will be difficult to fill his shoes. Can't really say I have anything useful to say except that I think you do have to go through a lot of frogs especially with OLD. Good on you for giving it a go and I know a couple of people who have found decent partners through OLD in their 40's so there is definitely hope!

Are there any group activities or night classes you could partake in? I think OLD, brings out the worst in men.
Maybe meeting someone organically & taking it slowly may be better?

Well done on getting back out there though OP