Convinced that loosing weight would make me happier in relationship . Anyone felt this too?

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So I have one dc. He has 2 dcs. Me and bf meet 3-4 times a week, sometimes on Kiddy outings or sometimes on our own. We've been together 7 months. He's not v social apart from odd pint with males mates and I am very social so he's ended up meeting far more friends than I've met of his ( only 1 in passing). In addition I've spoken to his sibling online but never met his family. We've two short holidays booked in next few months and he tells me he loves me / we have a lovely time together. I had an emotionally abusive relationship with my ex partner and I feel it's left me v v insecure . I put on a Marvelous front with friends but have been quite needy at times with new bf. Anyway I'm 17.13 stone at 5'7. So very overweight. I dress well/ exercise and have no health problems but realise I will have soon if I don't control eating. I suppose my point is that has anyone felt miles better in their relationship when they've lost weight ?! I feel a great deal of
My insecurity is wrapped
Up in m weight. I need to sort
It out! I'm ranting

Another here whose EXH ran off with someone fatter after I lost weight! It did make me feel a bit more confident in clothes but as others said issues of insecurity were still there meaning it didn't make me happier. I'm currently back to a size 14-16 but want to lose weight again. It has to be worth a try. I started going to the gym and that helped improve my general mood.

Look into Bright Lines eating, it s about getting under the habit of overeating, instead of being caught in a yo yo cycle of dieting. It might not be up your street, but with checking out x

Thanks , I'll Take a look X

Slow down OP.

Rushing into things, won't secure the deal.

All the best relationships have great foundations. After 7 months it's normally lust rather than love, so soon into it.

Have you thought of counselling? I think your weight & horrible previous experiences are clouding your judgement.

Yes I've been looking at local counsellors from the info in this thread. I agree , I am 30 and don't want more kids but just feel panicked that I'm
Old and won't find someone to settle down with. All my friends are married and engaged and I am just lagging behind . I know 30 isn't old but I just been panicked by it all. I do think weight has a lot to do with low self esteem but yes 7 months is v early