DH sometimes just snaps and makes me feel like shit

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We always joke around etc him more than me usually. We have both had a lovely afternoon and are getting ready to go for dinner with friends. He was in the shower. I opened the cubicle door whilst he was in there- something he would do to me on a very regular basis. He went mad and snapped and just created a vile atmosphere so now I'm locked in the bathroom avoiding him and just don't want to be around him yet have to go out with friends this evening. Wish I could avoid him for the rest of the night but can't .

What did he say? Did he shout?
How is it usually resolved?

Just act like he doesn't exist. Get yourself ready and go out and have a good time. He was probably up to no good in the shower

Who are the friends? My ex did this if we were going out with people I knew more than he did. . somewhat of a child who didn't like being the least 'popular' on the night out.

Or he would sabotage the getting ready stage so I felt too crap to go out and he went with his friends on an all nighter instead. Always a calculated reason for a fall out with him. .

His friends really. I just hate the fact that everything was fine and now he's ruined the evening.

He's now being totally silent apart from telling me to go ahead.

Nearly sounds like he doesn't want to go... social anxiety maybe?

It's really not normal for him to him to shout at you for that, especially as he does this to you.

It sounds like jokes can only be played on you.

I would not go out with him. Say you're sick or tell him he needs to stay home while you go out.

Don't enable and excuse him by pretending everything is fine.

I agree. Tell him how he makes you feel - don't just pretend everything is ok.

Don't go?

Tell him he has really upset you and see how he reacts.

If he apologies profusely and repeats "I am a twat" then go out with him. If he can't see what he's done wrong, then tell him to go out in his own, as you aren't going out with a moody twat, who shouts at his wife.

My ex used to do this. Usually because he didn't want to go out. I used to pretend we were fine whilst out and he used to make no effort and blank me completely. He didn't care who noticed either. It was belittling, embarrassing and soul destroying. It never got better

Is this part of a pattern of nasty behaviour? I don't think you should go out and do consider if you want this for the rest of your life