DH and I had an argument yesterday which dragged out over the course of the day, and to me it was just stupid and petty and we're both equally at fault. I've tried to get it to blow over but DH is still unhappy.
Now, DH is bringing up arguments from years ago that have been settled and put away and I've not thought of since. He's using this argument to air every single grievance against me. He will not comment on the things I see he has done wrong over this argument, and just wants to blame me for the whole thing. Also, I am an emotional person so I have cried a few times but every time I do he starts patronising me and saying things like "as an adult" or "I'm telling you" or accusing me of being aggressive if my voice changes, I speed up talking or get any louder. If he does this then it is okay for him to be being aggressive because I'm winding him up. He's talking about irrelevant things, putting words in my mouth, and won't listen to me.
I just don't know what to do now. He won't tell me how he wants to resolve it. We don't argue often to be honest, our relationship is good in general but DH can be very stubborn and always wants things to go his way. Normally I just back down and apologise but I just can't do it this time, but now I'm scared about how this will get resolved or how long it will drag out for or if we will split up over it. I don't know what to do.