Do I divorce?

[shoplifteroftheworld]

I'll try to keep it to the facts only.
I'm 39 with two boys - 9 and 7.
Left my husband in Feb 2015 as he was verbally abusive, broke my ribs and ridiculed me in front of the kids. Went to my parents but couldn't take my boys so said I'd collect them from school every day and stay until bedtime then leave.
Started divorce proceedings. Made a claim on his business - as advised by my solicitor.
He wouldn't let me see my kids, made false allegations and had me arrested for harassment when I kept begging to see my kids. Lied to police and said I'd threatened to have him beaten up.
I sent my boys cards, emails, photos, gifts regularly. He hid them all and refused even a 5 minute call on Mother's Day.
After 5 months of hell and trauma he begged me to go back to him and I did.
In the time we'd been apart I went off the rails because I was traumatised to have lost my children and was looking at only seeing them in a contact centre due to his lies.
A few months after we got back together I discovered he was chasing anything female and had slept with a woman he'd met in a coffee shop - taking her for dinner, having sex, sleeping next to her in the bedroom he made at his office and taking her for breakfast the next morning. I was suicidal afterwards but he continued to contact women - even after I fell down a flight of stairs, broke my neck and was admitted to a spinal injuries unit. Since then I've discovered he has bought at least 3 properties behind my back and formed at least 3 new companies. I can't trust him at all. I'm miserable, have no money - only debt and I don't know what to do anymore. Any advice would be so gratefully received. Thank you.

The standard advice would be to gather as much proof of the companies, properties and other financials as you can.

Move out and take the boys with you and establish a formal contact order as quickly as you can - that should stop him pulling the same trick with holding onto the kids. He's not going to be able to repeat the same BS as last time because why would he have had you back in the boys' lives if that were all true before?

If you reported the physical abuse when it happened then make sure you let your solicitor know (and I think you know you're going to need a good solicitor). Try Women's Aid for advice on getting away and getting a home established for you and the dc.

this is coming from the dark side...

You know you said you've had your issues and then got back together again on a couple of occasions, why not "try again" Only this time... don't be fooled into thinking he's for real.

Sometimes you have to act the fool, and fool the fool himself. Or at least put yourself on a safe platform. No one helps anyone these days, so you have to pick yourself up.

What I'm saying is try to get things back back to a friendship level and see your options from there. When you are friends you can actually discuss things better anyway.

Keep it sweet and stay confident and trust me, you will be fine

Women's aid are excellent. Yes you should divorce. But get everything lined up as best you can first.