When do PDAs become too much?

[RedStripeIassie]

I love affection but not overtly in public all night? Am I a prude or stuck up?

How do you deal with too much affection in public? Does it piss you off or make you awkward or do you like it?

I don't like any PDA, no elaborate kissing or touching in public. I don't mind seeing others do it, but it's not for me.

DH and I have no problems with PDA. We don't do it for show, but we're happy to kiss and touch each other in public when the mood takes us. We're a very affectionate couple.

Happy to see others do it too.

It's nice seeing two people physically show each other affection, no matter where they are. Is better than seeing a couple be stingy or cold to each other.

There is an upper limit to PDA where it starts getting inappropriate though.

DP and I had an absolute WTF moment the other day when a woman drove up onto the pavement next to us and yelled "get a room" out of her car window. We were walking along with his arm around my shoulder and mine round his waist

I just thought, blimey, you should see us in a bar on Friday night. Obviously there's a limit, but I'm pretty comfortable with both partaking in and viewing physical affection.

I was once against PDAs, never my thing and never understood it with abusive ex.

Now, I can't keep my hands off my DP anywhere. I'm so happy. We don't go overboard but I'm open to having a kiss in the street, holding hands etc.

it's lovely to see others doing it as now I understand, they're just happy!

My ex used to grope me in public and never walked anywhere without holding hands. But in private would get annoyed if I wanted to snuggle with him on the couch and would not allow any touching in bed unless it was actual sex. For him PDA was about control and showing ownership to others. You can tell when it's about this, when observing others. That or a general sense "ooh look how into each other we are, mmmm" , for the sake of it. That's what can make my skin crawl re PDA.

My current dp took almost a year of knowing me to hold my hand in public and even then he does it sparingly. But in private or in a group of trusted friends he is by far the most cuddly and loved up person, whether sex is on the cards or not is immaterial. It's wonderful.

PDA is all about intention for me, you can tell when it's just a product of sincere love, and in those cases it's lovely to see. When there's an abusive or show-off vibe it's nauseating.

Yes, my ex used to do the same thestamp

I hold hands and occasionally kiss OH on the cheek or peck on the lips when no one is around. But save the bum pats for in the house

Too much is when either 1. You don't like it or 2. It's illegal.

Tell the other person it makes you feel uncomfortable.

Interesting answers. I went out in a backless top last night so couldn't wear a bra and jeez! You'd have thought he'd never touched my tits before! Constant groping. Too much. I wouldn't have wanted to see another couple like that. From now the bra stays on

Bleurgh no thanks. That sounds horrid

I'm such a nerd, I read the subject and thought 'who on earth is still using a PDA in this day and age?' (Personal Data Assistant)

Although Smiths still has a Filofax section!

(Sorry OT)

And I'd settle for any displays of affection, public or otherwise right now....

Then he should learn to keep his hands to himself. How dare he presume he can do that?!

My dp gets hot and bothered by my not wearing a bra.

He'd never in a million years grope me in public over it.

Sorry op but that's vile, he shouldn't do that to you. That's the kind of thing that's out there enough that he would have to ask very specifically whether you were ok with him doing it. That's not normal and not nice.

A bum touch in public could be excused, it's fairly discreet when done carefully. Grabbing your breasts is bordering on horrific imo.

From now the bra stays on

Or how about he keeps his hands to himself?

Did you tell him it was bothering you?

You are not a prude, that is awful. I would have been shocked if I saw that in public.

Never use to be bothered by people showing PDA but i am a bit wary now. I remember once being in a pub with DH and this older couple were smooching and being loved up.

I commented to DH how cute they looked and they still are mad for each, DH looked at me like and said cute? And told me to look a bit closer. Turned out they had taken it bit further than snogging and was both pleasuring each other under the table with their hands