He's gone

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To his mum's to think cause he's unhappy and I have no idea what to do. I'm at home with our 11 month old and a broken heart

Hand hold.
What happened?

Left his family behind because he is unhappy? He is also selfish. Can you manage financially on your own?

We've been arguing a lot. Very long story short - together 14 years, married 6, had a baby after 4 years of infertility, complicated pregnancy, prem birth...think I've taken him for granted and we've both let things slide but now I don't know what to do

He's not being selfish, he just needs space which I get I just don't know how to move forward

Sorry you're having such a hard time

Do you want him to come back? Did he go for some breathing space?

Please talk to a friend in rl if you need to chat. And mn is here for you.

Yes, I still love him but I know we can't continue like this.

I feel like everything we've been through has pushed us apart and that's a horrible thought.

Thank you x

If his first real indication to you that things were seriously wrong for him in the relationship was this, his leaving, then he has failed you by letting it get to this point for him without saying anything.

How can you work together to fix things if he doesn't tell you how unhappy he is?

Especially when you've got an 11 month old baby!

I'm not impressed by your DH at all.

We went through similar difficulties both with having fertility treatment....eventually having children and then struggling to adapt. We did get there but it was really tough. Things are very good now but we BOTH needed to do some soul searching and recognise that we had to change. We did have some marriage guidance which helped, but I think it was all such an emotional roller coaster that we needed everything to settle and get used to our new reality.

I'm so sorry. He should have let you know how he felt rather than just walking out. Has he contacted you since? Do you have a rl friend to support you tonight?

I think right now, try and give him his space. Avoid contacting him.

Once he's ready to talk, say your part too. Admit you have taken him for granted, you've both been through a lot, you want to give it a last shot - counselling, whatever it takes. But let him have his time right now.

I appreciate the replies. Not heard from him but I'm giving him space and just trying to keep busy pottering round the house. I've spoken to a couple of RL friends. We did speak before he left and I understand his need for space. The infertility was a goal and dictated most of our marriage and my anxiety has been awful at times so I think we need to re evaluate. I just can't believe this has happened