Do i love my ex?

[MinnieSprinkles]

I have never been in love so i dont know what it is.
I was only around him for 10 months but we were extremely close like taking a dump in front of each other.
He tried to cheat on me in feb with a girl he convinced me was his friend, they didnt have sex he phoned her and she confirmed it but he told me he wanted to.
He was cheated on in the past with a girl he said he thought he loved and i feel like it still hurts him because he showed me her photo which he had in his phone and he said he wants for her to regret what she did to him by him being successful ect.

Anyway our relationship has been bascially toxic since, i tried to forgive him.but i couldnt. Gave him another chance but we werent together but he was talkin to other girl which he claimes he wasnt

After this i went with another guy who is still in my life but i cant stop thinking of my ex.
When im with him i just like being with him, i feel safe with him but i hate how he is but i know he will do anything for me.

Im 28 he is 26 but very immature

Will it ever work? We arent speaking again.

No it won't. You need to stop throwing away your affection on someone who treats you like this. You're hooked on him, but it's not love. Love isn't supposed to be painful.

Cut contact with him, and take some time to think about your boundaries in relationships and reset them.

I didn't know a measure of closeness was being able to take a dump in front of each other .

To answer your question will it ever work, based on what you have said here, no sorry.

His actions tell you all you need to know. You're a placeholder girlfriend at best.

And try to keep some mystique in a relationship in the future. Dropping the kids off at the pool, in front of your partner after barely knowing someone, is no relationship yardstick.

Wow. You dumped in front of each other. My husband and I have the strongest, closest relationship ever and I would never 'dump ' in front of him. Nor my best friend, sisters or mum. What a strange measure to apply to a relationship.

Eeew dumps together, never.

When someone treats you like shit it means they really don't care much, go back to what, more shit?

Stop waiting for him to be who you want him to be and start accepting him for who he is.

How romantic to dump in front of one another

You sound like you're 16.

Lol oncloud
Maybe not the best example but when i tell people its been 10months they are always like thats nothing but i have never felt close to any guy like him even my ex i was eith 6yrs that was my point

this sounds like a toxic push/pull relationship. he will keep you hanging and give you just enough to keep you interested. you will feel like any minute the 'perfect' relationship will materialise so keep hanging on waiting for it...but it never does.

i know it will be excruciating to end it while you are hooked in, but it's the fastest way through this game playing shit. take it from someone who has been there many times.

Agree with Dancinggoose, just exited a similar toxic push/pull relationship. Absolutely exhausting and devastating. We too had a special connection and close bond (including the dump taking, him though hah) apparently I knew him better than anyone blah blah blah, that I hadn't experienced in my previous stable 12 year relationship. Guess what, didn't stop him lying repeatedly to my face, messaging prostitutes and ultimately splitting my head open.

Get out, block him, try and move on. Not saying your ex is quite as awful as mine, but that feeling is limerence and infatuation. Not genuine love at all, it is very destructive.