He's in a relationship, isn't he?

[Foslady]

Bloke on OLD site. A few months ago we agreed to meet up one weekend (his choice of place - a not that popular tourist attraction). He had what sounded like a plausible excuse and kept changing the time at short notice. After the 4th time I told him to forget it. Came off the dating website for 6 months.
I went back on last week and he contacts me saying we should go for that coffee. Against my better judgement I agree to give him a chance and surprise surprise he tries to change from an after work meet up to a morning one (he's self employed), which I can't do. 15mins before the end of work he messages to say he can't make it.

He's now asking to rearrange, right now I'm thinking if this is what he's like now, he'll only be worse if we decide to meet up again (ha!), and in the back of my mind I'm wondering if all this is because he's actually living with someone.

I should just block him and move on, shouldn't I?

Whatever the reason, it's not worth the hassle is it?

It doesn't t sound like fun to me. How is everything else? I'm inclined to say move on because he is so flaky

Stop agreeing,you fool

Yes you should. Please trust your gut instinct. I had a similar start to a relationship that has just ended and I wish I'd trusted my gut instinct which was that he wasn't to be trusted! Found out he was cheating at the start of the relationship. Wasted 9 months with him. Thank god it wasn't longer. Seriously get out now. If he was that keen he wouldn't let you down a second time! He's going to be hard work. Good luck x

OMG, of course you shouldn't go any further. This sounds really AWFUL! and you haven't even met him yet...

I've been brought up to see the good in people - give people a chance. You've all confirmed what I thought, thank you!

Absolutely don't meeting. I'd say he's juggling a few women

Blocked and blacklisted!

You're on his back burner.

Never met up with a married guy when I was OLD but I was messaging a few when I thought hmmmm. Things that made my radar bleep were them messaging when they were AT WORK. 95% of men who have a job will come home, have their dinner and log on......... They're single and at a loose end in the evenings. Somebody who only ever messages you during the day is in a relationship!

My heart always sinks when I read stuff like this. There must be so many of these wankers out there probably even reading mumsnet for tips as to what they can get away with who, when they see that women will tolerate being treat like shit before they've even been on a date😲 Must rejoice as to how low the bar is set now.
Ffs do not even consider meeting him. He doesn't even have basic manners.

Italics fail

You still haven't managed to meet him for the first time? He's not making you a priority, for whatever reason. Move on.

Yep - all blocked and deleted

He sounds a right pain in the backside - I couldn't be doing with all that rearranging and postponing. Time to put him on the reject pile, I think!