I'm embarrassed because I've never...

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I feel really embarrassed to say that I've never kissed with tongues before, I remember when it started becoming a 'thing' at school and people made such a fuss about it that it terrified me and I never dared to do it! Everyone was always enquiring whether so and so was good at it, so I was scared incase I was bad and people would find out.

I'm now mid to late twenties and I still don't have a clue in that department
I've got a mental block against doing it because firstly I don't have a clue what I'm doing and I'm too scared to try incase it's terrible! I should've mastered it by this age surely.

I've had men try and it's really embarrassing to have to pull away etc and sometimes explain why. It's frustrating because I think I'd enjoy it too

I realise it isn't too important because I've had relationships and had children without ever needing this life skill but I feel like a weirdo also...

I need help!

GinaFordCortina

Yes! I am dressed pretty quickly after sex and would much prefer the light off. However, DP literally struts around like a proud peacock for ages. No chance I wouldn't see his penis.

Oh great. I've read this thread very tired with a headache and now kissing seems like the weirdest most unerotic thing in the world
I love kissing!

Yes, Scary, me too!

Kissing with tongues: great!
Sucking on someone's tongue: blech!

OP, I taught myself to dance by dancing alone in front of a full-length mirror. It took me months to get comfortable, and for months afterwards I would only dance in very dark clubs with dear friends. Now I feel totally comfy dancing in front of anybody. Just keep practicing!

I don't really like kissing with tongues, a little bit is ok, I don't really do it anymore. Everyone used to do it when I was a teen like it was the only way to kiss!

I'd never heard of tongue sucking!

Re kissing with tongues. It's easy! Totally instinctive thing to do. If it helps I was worried when I was a teenager and again when I first kissed a new person after divorce but was totally fine.

You don't have to put your tongue in very far.

My ex h was a terrible, terrible kisser and we harder ever kissed with tongues (although he wanted to) as he was so bad at it. I just shut that part of things out of my life. Was such a shame as it's lovely and a big part of intimacy to me.

Most of the time I've found kissing with tongues a bit of a turn off. Many men I've been with go straight to it without a warm up, and for it to be erotic I have to be very turned on. Then there's often too much tongue, too much saliva, stuff tongue darting around, tongue checking out my teeth, tongue checking out my tonsils, tongue like a wet towel in a washing machine. Blergh! Lips are far more erogenous and I prefer just using those.

Thinking about it, it's dead weird to get our tongues involved in kissing, isn't it? Like 'here, let me lick your open mouth seductively'.

Oh what I can't do is tongue sucking.

& lip biting! usually ends in a clash of teeth.

Another one who is not a fan so i dont do it at all. There are other things i much prefer! We are all different op !