My SIL (son in law) - doesn't get involved with the kid. Daughter does everything.

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My friend told me to come to this website, My daughter is in a unhappy partnership. He play xbox from the time he gets up to the time he goes to bed. He doesn't help her out financially, housework, nothing. I've told her she'd be better off on her own, but she has told him that herself. She kicked him out once, but the kids granddad brought him back because they had to stay together for the kids.

You need to tell her to get on here!

She won't, that's the problem. She moans and complains about things but does nothing. I feel helpless,

If someone isnt able to or doesnt want to make a change then you are helpless. All you can do is be there for her if and when she makes the right decision.

I'm so sorry as that really sounds sad. I know a friend like this and she's had enough and planning to leave him but it's taken time as her eldest is nearly at secondary. I think people almost have to sort it out for themselves as you taking a strong line could make things hard between you.

It must be so hard. Does he work? He sounds very immature and I wonder if anyone else can talk to him like his parents !

Really this is something she needs to deal with herself - it is part of being an adult and having a family

If she doesn't want to sort it out then I'm not sure that there is any help she can get. Probably the best is to stay out of it until she makes a decision for herself - the current situation with grandparents telling her to stay and parents telling her to leave sounds like she is treated as a child who gets told what to do - this is not going to help her make her own decisions

There's unfortunately nothing you can do except stamp on the xbox

Wouldn't she rather be in a happy relationship where her partner does his fair share of housework and childcare?
He sounds like an immature little boy and I don't blame you for feeling this way.

I really can't stand men who think everything should be down to the woman.