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He won't leave

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Sparrowlegs248 · 19/07/2017 19:26

And I can't make him. Husband, joint mortgage, 2 under 2. Anyone been in the same position? How did you cope/resolve it?

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jacketej · 19/07/2017 19:29

Is there enough space for you to move to a different room? For him to move to a different room?

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Sparrowlegs248 · 19/07/2017 19:48

No. Only two bedrooms, albeit large ones. Toddler in one, us and baby in the other. He could sleep in with the toddler I guess but I'm not keen having worked hard to sort his sleep out.

Thanks fir your reply, I'm not sure why I posted really, just feeling at a bit of a loss.

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GlitterSparkles17 · 19/07/2017 20:04

No you can't make him but surely he sees that living together isn't going to work? Why don't you leave with the kids?

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Sparrowlegs248 · 19/07/2017 20:45

I am looking for places to rent near to my parents. Properties are few and far between, there have been about 5 on rightmost in two months, no children, every one of them. So I am looking at other areas now. I don't really want to leave, but it's miserable. Worse than miserable. Which is why I asked him to, even just temporary for a break.

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Gemini69 · 19/07/2017 21:06

do they seriously say.... No Children OP ? that's shocking x

Sadandscared77 · 19/07/2017 21:09

In the same boat. It horrible isn't it. Im spending my evenings up in my bedroom. He's Kipping on the sofa.
I'm just keeping conversation to a minimum and not having a lot to do with him id possible.

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Sparrowlegs248 · 19/07/2017 21:39

Yes Gemini, the one that didn't have it on the advert, said it when I phoned up for a viewing.

sad it's awful isn't it. He's been out tonight but I've just heard his car door go and it made me jump and I'm.immediately anxious. He'll probably sleep in the other room as Dc1 is at GP 's tonight.

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blackteasplease · 20/07/2017 10:40

I do really think that mothers of children should always have the right to ask any man she co habits with to leave, at least in the interim before matters can be taken to court.

It sounds terribly sexist but this would protect children and vulnerable women.

Society should recognise the fact that women are vulnerable in any unregulated situation (i.e. any marriage or partnership or where people are asked to just "get along") and they should have the fall back of saying "leave until this situation can go to court" without having to prove abuse.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 20/07/2017 10:42

I do really think that mothers of children should always have the right to ask any man she co habits with to leave, at least in the interim before matters can be taken to court.

Sorry but that is ridiculous.

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